Lady Cries Out Online As Her Boyfriend Of Over A Year Doesn't Want To Be Intimate With Her, Redditors React

"It’s almost been a year and he has made absolutely no moves"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 13, 2023

In a relationship, emotional intimacy can be one of the most important aspects. The ability to communicate your most intimate and profound feelings to another person is what defines it.

People feel safe and confident enough to share when they have this kind of closeness because they know they will be understood, validated, and cared for. In a relationship, intimacy matters.

It all boils down the genuine, deep connection you have with your spouse—a closeness that has the ability to powerfully unite two people. In a relationship, it is hard to forge a solid link and create trust without intimacy.

But what happens if your significant other isn't interested in intimacy? Even though a relationship can function without intimacy, over time it will really test the resolve of both parties.

Although it's unthinkable to have a relationship without sex, people may feel less desired if their sexual life is diminishing. The other partner in the relationship could feel uneasy and unsatisfied, depending on who avoids intimacy more.

For the OP in today's story, her boyfriend of close to a year has avoided any sort of intimacy with her. He has never tried to kiss or do anything else with the OP.

She is personally conservative with physical intimacy, so it’s overall okay for her, but she would like to kiss at some point before marriage. Keep scrolling to read her full story below.

OP writes

OP's boyfriend has a male friend he loves spending time

OP summarizes her story and here it is

Bf of almost a year hasn’t made any attempt to kiss or do anything physical. Is this normal or could he possibly be gay based on other observations.

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

Is he waiting for marriage first?

It's not normal for a straight couple

OP should calmly ask him about it

The OP kind of let it happen

This Redditor believes the OP deserves an explanation

This will build to resentment over time. You need to have a conversation with him about this, and accept that you may not be compatible in the long run. It’s understandable if perhaps he expressed certain boundaries and this was borne from that, but from what I’ve read in the other comments, he has no problem with porn and doesn’t seem to have any religious or personal reason for wanting to hold off on intimacy. He owes you an honest explanation, even if it’s that he is asexual.

The OP and the boyfriend sound like besties

A year in and it's only a hug

The OP clearly wants something different from the relationship

It's a matter of being disowned

It's only through communication

A relationship's foundation becomes difficult in the absence of contentment and stability. Intimacy is important to many people in a relationship, but what should you do if your partner refuses to be intimate?

This is a problem that many couples encounter and the OP is seeking answers as well. Leave your advice for her in the comments section below.

Maryjane