Man Shares Wedding Invites Less Than Year After First Wife's Death, Gets Text From His Child About Lack Of Grief

"l'll make sure to check with you beforehand"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 3, 2024

Grieving is a difficult and unpredictable process, and losing a parent can cause particularly intense sadness. Even though we appear to post every aspect of our lives on social media these days, it's not always easy to communicate the deep sadness that comes with losing a parent.

In the wake of the OP's mom's tragic death, she and her siblings are pushed into a world of uncertainty and misery as their father quickly enters into a new romance. In this moving story about sorrow and family dynamics, OP navigates the complex feelings and implications of a remarriage that appears to cast their own mourning out.

In less than a year, OP's father had already found another woman, and months later, they announced their engagement. It took roughly eight to nine months from engagement to wedding. 

Worse still, their dad is getting married to someone who is only a few years older than the OP and her sister, who happens to be the eldest. The dispute escalates as siblings seek to reconcile their own sentiments of loss with the father's willingness to go on.

Their dad even went so far as to send wedding invitations on the anniversary of their mother's death. This is exacerbated by ill-timed wedding invites and a hen party reminder that adds salt to the injury.

The headline

The OP kicks off the story

They were with their grandparents for support

They are in that position because their mom died

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I sent a message to my dad to ask him to think about our grief over dead mum when he is planning wedding to new fiancé. 2) AITA for potentially putting a dampener on his wedding.

And the comments roll in...

The OP isn't going to the party

The response was appropriate

He didn't challenge this

The OP left this in the comments

Well, if it was just 1 of us or even 2 that received it around our mums anniversary it may have been a mistake, but all of us received it either on the day or the day after. Also the fact he text my grandma directly the day after my mums death day seemed quite obvious that the particular time of year wasn’t on his mind.

He has a pretty terrible track record of being aware of how anyone is feeling besides himself, and has even said previously to a family friend that he was mad at US and why can’t we just be happy for him as he’s now “blissfully happy”.

And the comments continues...

Good for him

Getting hold of her possessions

She's always with the OP

As a family grieves, mends, and adjusts to their new reality, they take comfort in the strength of their bond. Though the path ahead may still be bumpy, the family moves forward with a greater appreciation for one another, their shared love, and the power of open hearts.

OP's experience reminds us that loss is a meandering, unpredictable road that can separate and unite. In the end, it is not the loss that defines us, but the love that keeps us connected. 

Maryjane