Lady Gets Wedding Invite From Someone She No Longer Speaks To, Declines It After Discovering Why The Soon-To-Be Bride Invited Her

"I politely declined the invitation and offered my best wishes"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 17, 2024

Have you been invited to a wedding but you're unable or unwilling to attend? It may place you in a difficult situation as you want to keep the relationship going strong in the future.

So therefore, you don't want to be impolite or offend the couple. You wouldn't want them to pay for a seat at the table you aren't using, so you want to avoid that problem too. 

Although some people view weddings as the most anticipated events of the year, not everyone shares this sentiment. Those who have been invited might not be able to attend due to the time, effort, or cost involved.

Rejecting a wedding invitation may seem like a huge social risk, but you shouldn't have to worry about the soon-to-be couple's reaction if you decline their invitation with consideration. The OP received a wedding invitation from a former close friend, "Emily," whom she hasn't spoken to in about 7 years.

They were good friends at university but lost touch for reasons unknown to the OP. It's public knowledge among OP's circle that she has a fairly good job, and Emily is also aware of it.

The wedding invitation came with a 'suggested gift' list that consists mostly of pretty high-end items. This gives OP the impression that the primary reason for her invitation is to secure an expensive wedding gift.

She declined the wedding invitation for more reasons than stated, and you can read the full story below to learn all about it.

The OP writes

It's public knowledge among OP's circle that she has a fairly good job

OP could potentially make time for the wedding if it were a significant event for someone important

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

That it might have been a genuine attempt to reconnect rather than just for an expensive gift. Though perhaps that should have been done before inviting me to the wedding.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to check out below

Her wedding is not an appropriate venue for reconciliation

The OP should not feel bad for declining

You aren't friends if you haven't spoken in years

The OP probably doesn't know the reason she was invited

Attending a wedding is a significant investment of time and money

They have other things going on

The OP is totally in her right to decline the invitation

That is part of planning a wedding

Emily's snobbish and insensitive behavior is ironic, given that she only invited those who can afford the expensive presents on their registry. Redditors were also bewildered at Emily's lack of concern for the OP, and her continued lack of attempt to get in touch with her after she rejected her invitation.

Redditors dissected the whole thing, and the OP was declared as not the AH. Leave your verdict about this story in the comments section below and share this post as well.

Maryjane