Couple On A Werge Of Breakup Because BF Believes Taking Care Of Their Baby Is Solely Mom's Responsibility

"It’s 2:30am here and my boyfriend is driving me to the verge of breakup."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• December 20, 2022

Caring for a newborn can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding tasks a parent can face. Newborns require great attention and care, and it can be overwhelming for even the most experienced parents.

Newborns also need a lot of love and emotional support. It's important to bond with your baby and make them feel secure and loved, as this will help them develop a healthy emotional connection with their parents.

Taking care of a newborn can be exhausting, both physically and emotionally. It can be challenging to balance the demands of a newborn with other responsibilities, such as work and housework.

It's essential to take time for yourself and get adequate rest and relaxation. However, this implies getting help from your partner.

But if they don't understand that parenting is also work, it gets tricky. So then, we have situations just like the one our OP is describing.

OP and her BF have a 2-month-old baby, and taking care of it is difficult for them. That's mainly because OP does most of the work, but her BF believes it is the other way around.

He believes that he shouldn't have duties around the house or the baby because he works full-time. He believes that caring for the baby is easy (that's how you recognize fathers who never cared for their kids).

This has led to countless arguments, and the latest one was quite severe. Read the full story below:

OP asks:

She and her BF have a 2-month old baby, and taking care of it is difficult for them

That's mostly because OP does most of the work, but her BF believes it is the other way around

He believes that because he works full-time, he shouldn't have duties around the house or the baby

He believes that taking care of the baby is easy

According to him, that's not work

He does nothing around the house

And is still complaining

OP also worked before

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:

He is a father

You don't get to quit because you are tired

"He needs to learn patience and coping mechanisms."

Good question that might bring an answer she doesn't want to hear

What?

Four hours of sleep is not enough

Lazy, selfish, sexist man...

The feeling of drowning in the first months after each baby...

Her BF simply doesn't know...

"A well-rested mother is better for baby than an exhausted, sleep-deprived mother."

Well, most developed countries...

Both parents need to share responsibility in caring for the child. This helps to create a sense of security and stability for the child and allows both parents to be equally involved in their child's life.

It also helps to show the child that each parent is equally important and that both parents are equally involved in making decisions that affect the child's life. Finally, both parents should model appropriate behavior and treat each other with respect.

This sets a good example for the child and helps to create a positive and loving environment in the home.

Damjan