Redditor Invites Parents To His Wedding, Saying He's Willing To Sell Them Forgiveness For Abandoning Him

There is no handbook for parenting, but parents usually attempt to help their kids in every possible way and bring them up nicely. Unfortunately, even from that good intention, a counter effect can arise, so both parties, the parents and the children, might end up in a serious quarrel.

A Reddit user recently shared his story and how things turned up for him. Upon turning 18, the OP was forced into self-reliance by his parents.

They provided a financial cushion intended for his education and began charging him rent. So, being a partial scholarship recipient and having the money his parents gave him, the OP moved to his university city, found a job, and managed to stay afloat financially.

As a consequence of his demanding lifestyle, communication with his parents vanished almost at all. Meanwhile, his parents pursued a different parenting approach with his siblings, allowing them to live at home through university and beyond.

Now a 34-year-old man, gainfully employed and preparing to marry his wonderful girlfriend, the OP sent a wedding invitation to his family. His parents questioned their non-involvement in the wedding preparations, prompting the OP to remind them of their limited presence in his life for the past 16 years.

They urged him to leave the past behind. But the OP itemized and invoiced his parents for the costs he shouldered alone - costs they covered for his siblings.

When they complained about their inability to pay, mentioning debts from supporting his siblings, the OP merely hoped for their wedding attendance and ended the call. His family has since expressed their concern for the pain inflicted on his parents.

But the OP claims he wants nothing from them except their presence at his wedding. And if they don't come, that would probably revert their contact to the usual annual phone call.