Frustrated Girlfriend Refused To Send Money To Her Unemployed Boyfriend When He Got Stuck In Thailand

He was too busy packing to really think about what traveling in the middle of a pandemic meant

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• May 18, 2023

It is considered immature to tell another adult, "I told you so," when they make a mistake you saw from a mile away. Warnings can only go so far when they are so obviously determined to ignore any advice given to them.

At a certain age, you won't expect another adult to go on a trip they can't afford. The concept is simple — if you don't have a job, you won't have enough money to go on a nearly month-long vacation.

A concept apparently lost on a Redditor's 34-year-old boyfriend. OP and her boyfriend are immigrants who live in Sweden.

She immigrated first for a job and managed to secure employment for him. Unfortunately, he soon got fired for unprofessional behavior.

OP said it wasn't a big deal; he just swore a lot at work and generally behaved like a child. He has been unemployed since and hasn't bothered to look for a new job.

When OP got home from work one day, her boyfriend surprised her with the news that he booked a flight to Thailand. His vacation will last for three weeks, and the flight will be the following day.

He was shocked when OP wasn't elated by his news. They were messaging throughout the day, and not once did he mention anything about a trip.

All of this happened in March 2020, right around when COVID-19 was starting to spread.

OP asked him to cut his trip short because he can get stuck in Thailand. She did not plan on subsidizing his bad decision.

A few days after the $30 OP sent him, he was asking her again for money because new protocol prohibited him from leaving Thailand as planned. OP doesn't want to send him any more money, would that make her the a**hole?

It's important to note that when her boyfriend booked the flight, we all had enough information about what COVID-19 was

If OP doesn't send him money, their relationship will most definitely end

The commenter said it doesn't look like OP is very fond of her boyfriend based on her reaction

Who doesn't at least discuss with long-term partner about an overseas trip that long in the middle of a pandemic?

OP clarified that her boyfriend used his own money to fund his trip. He was aware before he left that OP will not help him financially if he ever got stuck in Thailand which is exactly what happened.

It's time for OP's boyfriend to find his own way out. It looks like OP is just tired from the latest mess of his that he wants her to clean.

He hasn't been acting like one based on the reasons cited for his firing

Does he have any other people, like family and friends, he can bother?

OP can help him just to make sure that he is safe, but it's time to rethink the status of their relationship after that.

If OP continues this relationship, she has to be prepared to fix his mistakes for the rest of their lives

Besides, why did he so badly want to go on a solo trip to Thailand? Does he have family there?

If not, his motivation behind this trip is really suspicious

They have a lot of issues to discuss once her shortsighted boyfriend gets back from Thailand

The way OP handles the relationship will truly determine if she deserves better or if they are better off with each other

He knew there was a highly contractable disease when he booked his trip. OP warned him not to go before he left and even during his trip, yet he plowed ahead.

Would OP really be a terrible person if she told him to go ask the embassy for help? Unfortunately, we have no idea how she handled the situation because her account was suspended, and no further updates popped up.

Chelsi