Separation Roams The Air As Breadwinner Woman Is Tired Of Her Husband Doing Little To Nothing At Home

"Are there any other wives that understand how I’m feeling?"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 16, 2024

The stress level in a family might rise significantly if the couple is not content with how domestic responsibilities are assigned. Researchers have discovered that one of the main sources of stress in many relationships is the unequal distribution of chores.

The distribution of household chores is frequently greatly influenced by gendered assumptions about how men and women should act and what responsibilities they should perform in the home. More hefty or heavy tasks are usually seen as "men's" jobs, while simple, repetitive tasks such as washing dishes or doing laundry are typically thought of as "women's" jobs.

But what happens when the roles are reversed? We see such a case in today's story where the OP is the breadwinner of the family, and her husband just cleans cars part-time.

All the day-to-day tasks that are going undone are driving the OP crazy. She comes home from work to meet a lot of undone chores, which is making her life hard because it feels like he’s the OP's child.

They already have a house cleaner and lawn mower because those things were building up. They have talked about him being more mindful of his daily chores, but he just waves it off.

The OP is tired at this point and is seeking advice on what to do. 

The OP kicks off her story

They have talked about him being more mindful about his daily chores

The OP left this update later on

I read each comment and every relatable story was so helpful. We talked last night and it was the same as always. He doesn’t think he can be happy in this relationship either so we talked about separation and he mentioned getting on welfare since he wouldn’t be able to financially support himself.

First we are going to try the avenue of ADHD / Depression treatment and he says he will give up video games but this has been said before. Thanks everyone. I appreciate the support.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

The OP has to ask herself some certain questions

She is currently the speed run champ

"I don't know how to make a salad"

No one who loves you will be okay with you doing everything

He does not want to change, according to this Redditor

From a Redditor who drew up the divorce papers

Sending him to his room without any dinner

He can learn to be a husband and a partner

This Redditor has a similar story to share

The OP's undoubtedly dealing with an adult child and many Redditors said they would take back the credit card and remove his name from the shared credit card as well. The OP's already had a conversation with him, but she was advised to set the ground rules and tell him to get his acts together.

He isn't acting like a partner or a dad and the OP's only asking him to be an adult. Share this story with your family and friends to get their own opinions.

Maryjane