Man Shares A Mountain Of Reasons Why He's Uncomfortable With His Girlfriend Going On A Vacation With Her Ex And Their Kids

"I do feel befuddled here and like I might just be overthinking"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• August 25, 2023

Divorce seldom comes easily. Things get even more complicated when kids are involved.

Moving from a single-family home to two different families can result in a lot of heartache and uncertainty. Both the parents and the kids may experience emotional exhaustion when spending vacations apart.

Most of the time, families will switch up their holidays to reduce stress. Still, divorced parents may occasionally still be able to celebrate holidays with their kids.

Most parents want their young children's holidays to continue to be picture-perfect for as long as possible, whether they are together or apart. Despite this, it can be challenging to figure out how to make it work.

Every divorce and separation is unique. While the split may have been relatively amicable for some, it may have been harsh and resentful for others.

Holidays for divorced families may be emotionally taxing, regardless of the situation. Divorced parents frequently trade off who gets the kids during the holiday season.

Even though it isn't ideal, this helps relieve the burden of always arguing over who gets the kids on certain occasions and allows each parent to enjoy their trip without fighting with the other in front of the kids. The OP of today's story isn't comfortable that his girlfriend wants to go on a vacation with her ex and their kids.

Read the entire story for yourself as you keep scrolling down.

The headline

The OP and his girlfriend do not live together but do spend a lot of time together

OP's very understanding and supportive of their amicable divorce and the needs of the children

Thanksgiving is the only holiday that his girlfriend spends with his extended family

The OP is trying to build a strong emotional connection with his girlfriend for a future together

OP's girlfriend is obviously going to continue to interact with the girls and her ex

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other redditors have to chirp into the story

OP's girlfriend had to leave town

Playing pool and shooting darts together

This Redditor sees where the OP's coming from

This is not co-parenting

If the OP trusts her, then he trust her

The OP needs to lay out what he's feeling

One of the downsides to dating a woman with kids

It's a really poor show of her

The OP plans on telling her how he feels

He only wants her to come with a facade

The OP has this update to share with the reddit community

The OP began by discussing one of the points he had alluded to in his points

This episode has taught him that he needs to engage in more conversation

OP's girlfriend said she was already leaning towards not going for various reasons

Many of the Redditors' comments helped him find some good ways to express those concerns

The majority of divorcing families have a written custody agreement that specifies how many days each child will spend with each parent on a regular basis. These parenting plan agreements typically also provide specific guidelines for how holidays and birthdays will be celebrated.

A lot of parents would love to spend every holiday with their kids but it seems OP's girlfriend has got it all figured out.

Maryjane