Redditor Shames Their Brother For Asking Money After Taking A Guardianship He Could Not Afford

"I agreed to give him the money on the condition that he and I file for a joint guardianship next year."

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• Published in Interesting
• January 31, 2023

Children often get caught up in parents or guardians fighting over their custody in a court of law. The current judicial system is less than perfect, and in many cases, justice does not prevail. 

The child in question’s life gets torn because of personal reasons each one of the adults has. They're not always in the child's best interest, and many people do it out of spite and pettiness. 

It can be tricky sometimes to come to a peaceful understanding, which pushes people to take legal action to increase their odds of things going their way. It's easy to pick this path and let the system take care of things instead of compromising. 

A Redditor who goes by the username u/Substantial_Duck317 made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where they explained how they shamed their struggling brother after asking for a loan. The user and their brother both wanted custody of their nephew, but the brother went behind their back, so Op wanted to use this loan as leverage. 

The r/AmItheA**hole community had a lot of different reactions to the user's post. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

Here's the original post by Reddit user u/Substantial_Duck317:

Op is single and claims they can afford to give Jesse a much better life.

OP's brother ended up getting guardianship behind their back.

Op's brother was drowning financially and asked for a $20,000 loan.

OP shamed their brother for not thinking the guardianship through and agreed to give him the loan under one condition.

OP thinks they might be the a-hole for the following reason:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/Substantial_Duck317's post:

OP might never get that money back.

"It's unfortunate that you couldn't work together for what's best for the child."

It sounds like OP is doing this out of spite.

"You lack emotional intelligence the court made the right choice."

It could easily spiral out of control.

If the brother is not financially stable, this won't be the last time.

Cutting off contact proves that OP doesn't genuinely care about their nephew.

"It’s a known bias in family court."

OP's neglect is not in Jesse's best interest.

Having money doesn't automatically make you a good parent figure.

The brother saved Jesse from OP.

"Being surrounded by family, siblings, is a lot more important for a young child than "a really cool house by the beach"."

Jesse has been through a lot, so no wonder he's struggling in school.

The poor child just wants a decent and stable life.

OP and her brother should try to come to some sort of understanding to prevent putting Jesse's future at stake. You can't be petty and selfish in these scenarios and have to choose what's best for the child in question.

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