Redditor Considers Blocking Their Cat’s Former Foster Carer Over Constant Check-In Messages, Years After Adopting The Kitty

Part of fostering is letting go.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• July 11, 2023

Cats are understandably one of the pets with the highest number of owners worldwide. Who doesn’t like their fluffy fur and adorable eyes? Certainly not us!

These felines are one of the best pets to have around because of their low-maintenance nature. Cats are also independent and can help keep their owner’s home pest free, as they’re natural insect killers. More than all these, their long life span makes them a favorite for many.

With all their great qualities, it’s easy to understand why people get attached to them and find it difficult to let them go or get over them.

We found one story on the AITA subreddit that tells a similar story.

OP shared that they had adopted a cat from a foster organization in 2016. Before then, a lady had cared for the cat and nursed it back to health after some traumatic injuries.

The lady had told OP that she liked to check in on the cats she’d previously fostered via social media. True to her words, during the first year, she sent several messages checking in on the cat.

OP was initially eager to respond to the messages. However, this stopped when the lady’s message continued over the years, and OP stopped responding often.

In 2020, the lady reached out again, and this was the last straw for OP, so they reported to the agency, and the agency assured OP that they would ask her to stop. According to OP, the messages stopped.

However, on OP’s Cat’s birthday, the lady reached out again, and OP considered blocking her. This made them wonder if blocking her would make them the AH.

Scroll down to see the community’s verdict!

Let's dig into the details

OP adopted their cat from a foster carer who had a habit of checking in from time to time to see how the cat is doing

4 years after the adoption OP continued to receive messages from the foster carer, which forced them to report her to the foster organization

Recently, OP received another message from the foster carer on their cat's birthday. Now they're contemplating blocking her to prevent any more messages in the future

We gathered some interesting reactions from the Reddit community:

"She's overstepping. I get that she probably cares about the kitty, but part of fostering is giving up the kitty."

"Foster parents sometimes get super attached to an animal they're caring for....Report her again to the foster agency."

"Yes, block her, and tell the organization she reached out to you again."

"Feel free to block her, she obviously continues to overstep boundaries that both you and the rescue has set!"

"You should feel free to block her if you would feel more comfortable not hearing from her again."

"If she’s not able to let her fosters go mentally, she’s going to one day run into a family who will do more than block her"

"Ywbta. It's one message in three years. Your cat might not even be alive if not for people willing to foster it."

The commenters believe OP is NTA in this situation. In fact, some people are surprised that they have been able to cope this long without blocking the foster carer.

While the commenters understand that it may be difficult for the lady to let go of the cat, they believe she’s overstepping, especially since she’s going against the agency’s rules.

We'd love to get your thoughts on this story. Join the conversation in the comments below.

Jesse