Autistic Brother Gets The Spotlight His Entire Life, Neglected Sister Snaps At Him For Ruining Her Prized Possessions

"I knew it wasn’t my brother’s fault, but I couldn’t help hating him"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 24, 2023

Children who have disabled siblings may find it hard because they abruptly require much more parental care, leaving the other child feeling behind. In response to this, u/ScreamingAH raises the question of whether she is the bad person for eventually yelling at her parents and brother because he was always given priority over her.

The OP in today's story wanted guidance after finally losing her cool with her adult autistic brother, who was always the center of attention while she was being mistreated by her parents. Because her brother doesn't know any differently, the poster claims she feels bad about yelling at him, but she still means what she said.

The 27-year-old woman started her story by stating that she has an older sibling who is 3 years older than her and has autism. She says that her parents have always loved him and have taught her to prioritize meeting his requirements over all others.

She was never the center of attention when OP was growing up. Her brother was the center of attention; she worked hard to earn good grades "for her brother" and medals that would be presented to the brother as a gift.

She didn't have anything she could genuinely call her own, and she couldn't touch her brother's things without upsetting him, so the gifts she received would also be for him.

It's very challenging to feel neglected by your parents, particularly if it seems like they always put your siblings before you

Over time, she came to hate her sibling because of everything put together. Although the OP acknowledged that her sibling is not to blame, she claimed that she "couldn't help hating him."

She moved out as soon as she could because she didn't want to vent her emotions on her parents, who were trying their best, or her brother, who was helpless. Read the full story below.

The Story Begins...

The OP never felt important growing up

Harboring frustration

She would spend a few days at a time visiting her parents twice a year, so this was a big relief for her

The OP couldn't help but resent her brother

The OP appeared to have patched up the problem by sparingly seeing her parents and brother, but when her family decided to visit her for Christmas, the pain was rekindled

Naturally, all of OP's childhood irritations returned, perhaps made worse by her brother's worsening conduct

He would go through her belongings every day and break at least one item, some of which were sentimental and costly.

When she eventually lost it, she yelled at him to leave her and now they're here

It all does not matter

Everyone is now calling to express their displeasure

Being the older or middle child can be challenging because parents suddenly seem much more interested in the other kids, as you've undoubtedly heard. If the kid has grown accustomed to receiving all of the parental love and attention, this is challenging to accept.

Comments generally agreed that the daughter wasn't being rude and that it wasn't appropriate of her to lose her temper, but that was to be anticipated given how her parents had treated her.

That's just crazy

Caring for your brother in the future

Sacrificing your childhood

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They don't seem to understand

Set a clear boundaries

Putting up with them

A special needs sibling

Pushing the envelope

Crying as much as she wants

Siblings of children with special needs may find it particularly difficult to deal with the situation. They may start feeling left out and resentful of their parents and siblings.

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Maryjane