Redditor Agrees To Let SIL And Her 4 Kids Temporarily Live With Them, But After A Whole Year Wants Them Out

"This went on for over a year, she still didn’t have a job and was living here for free."

Ayoub

• Published in Interesting
• November 20, 2022

When people realize that they can abuse your kindness and get away with it, they try to milk you as much as they can until you eventually get enough and put a stop to it. It's always awkward when you are forced to explicitly let someone know they are overstepping your boundaries and taking advantage of your kindness. 

Sometimes, even when people realize they are being taken advantage of, they allow it to keep happening. The reason can be either because they are not good with confrontation or because they try to give them more time to get back on their feet.

No one likes dealing with such situations, especially when the person who's overstaying their welcome happens to be a family member. You try to have more patience with family members, but it's not always the way to go.

A Redditor who goes by the username u/krose_7137 made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where she explained how her SIL had been taking advantage of her family's kindness by overstaying her welcome. The user felt bad about wanting them to move out, so she decided to ask the Reddit community.

Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post. 

Here's the original post by Reddit user u/krose_7137:

Op wanted to help the SIL out by allowing her to stay with them until she got back on her feet.

The SIL never got a job and didn't seem like she was planning on moving out.

Chaos eventually reigned all over the house.

The SIL eventually started inviting her boyfriend over.

Op eventually found out a pretty disturbing fact that made things even worse.

Op felt terrible about the whole situation and was unsure whether she had made the right decision.

Op eventually modified the post to include an "Edit" with more context.

Op thinks she might potentially be the a-hole for the following reason:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/krose_7137's post:

Op's husband is way out of pocket here.

Op has more than enough reasons to ask her to move out.

The SIL's kids are the real victims here.

Op should act fast before things get out of control.

Op needs to protect herself from this situation.

Angry relatives can get vindictive sometimes.

Op should make sure to do these things to pressure her SIL into moving.

They can do things like this for years.

Entitled people will allow themselves to do things like these.

If the SIL has nowhere to go, she has no one to blame but herself.

It's either the SIL or OP.

Op should not tolerate this insanity any longer. The SIL and her kids have overstayed their welcome and should be informed that they must find somewhere else to stay.

She is abusing Op and her boyfriend's kindness and not even helping them with cleaning or expenses. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out similar content on our platform.

Ayoub