Woman Accused Of Excluding Step-Son From Family After Refusing To Buy Him Tickets To A Hangout With His Step-Siblings
The relationship between siblings is a weird and beautiful one. Many people can't count how many fights they've had with their siblings, and in the same vein, can't count how many times their siblings have supported them.
Research shows that children who grow up with their siblings tend to feel more secure during adulthood. This is just one of the many benefits of having a sibling.
For stepsiblings, this relationship might be a little more complicated, as not all stepsiblings believe they are siblings and act as such.
Yet, many step-siblings get along very well. Unfortunately, that's not the case in this story we found on the AITA subreddit.
OP shared that she had a stepson who didn’t like his siblings, who were her kids. Although they wanted a good relationship with him, he wouldn't allow it, significantly hurting them.
OP’s stepson instead chose to make his friends his siblings, but when they grew apart, he wanted to build a relationship with his siblings. When he found out they were all attending an event, he requested a ticket, but his siblings didn't want him to come.
OP then decided not to force them to invite him, just like she had respected his wishes the numerous times he had declined invitations to hang out with his siblings. However, he did not take this well, nor did his grandparents, leading OP to question her actions.
Check out the full story below!
The story in detail...
Reddit.comOP explained that her step son (Jerry) has always been resistant to their family, as he saw her as an intruder
Reddit.comJerry has been very vocal about his disdain for OP and his step-siblings
Reddit.comRecently, Jerry has been trying to find his way back into the family, but his step-siblings want nothing to do with him again. Interestingly, OP is the one feeling the heat, as she has been accused of excluding Jerry from mingling with the other kids
Reddit.comHere's how the Reddit community reacted to the story:
"You're not excluding him. You're giving your kids the same choices you gave Jerry"
Reddit.com"Seems like you’re trying to include him but his siblings are firmly not wanting him there"
Reddit.com"I think you should completely support them having any discussions that can maybe heal any past trauma, should your kids want to do that."
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"Jerry is old enough to understand consequences have actions."
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"Jerry reaped what he sowed. He didn't want to be a part of the family, so he doesn't get to change his mind once he's alone with no one else."
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"Jerry should have learned by now that his actions have consequences even if it's years down the road"
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"I would sit down with your son and see if maybe you can talk him around to trying to be the bridge with his stepbrother."
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"If he really seeks reconciliation, that is good and you and your kids should sit with him and talk it out."
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"You're not really excluding him, he excluded himself with his actions."
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"Whether your approach works or not parenting is hard and you didn't do anything a**holish."
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According to this Redditor, the details of the story aren't adding up
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"If Jerry truly wants to be with them, he will just have to sit it out."
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Some important edits
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The edits seem to have gotten some users pissed
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"The edits make me think there is more to this"
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"YTA for your edit and comments."
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It seems that the general conclusion is that OP is NTA. A majority of people clearly feel that Jerry is suffering the consequences of his actions.
However, a number of users have been angered by OP's edits. In addition, a few people have questioned the authenticity of the story because some details don't seem to add up.
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