Independent Redditor Snaps At Husband After Multiple Incidents Of Him Acting Like A Man-Child And Degrading Her

'The only person that’s emasculating you is yourself. It’s not my fault you never learnt to be what you call a man’

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• December 22, 2021

There's a special breed of men in this world that women seem to keep running into, and even end up marrying them sometimes. They're called man-children.

'Man-children' or 'man-child,' are grown men with the emotional capacity of kids and ones you have to pamper and serve so they can function properly every day. Otherwise, you risk being called useless if you choose to let them be independent.

This Redditor's husband has been deemed not only the a**hole in the situation but also a man-child. There were other names too but we'll get on that later on.

OP was raised by a single father to be independent. She learned how to not only do housework but also learn useful home repairs.

It was the opposite of how her husband was raised. Her husband believed that men are always right and should be served at all times, this turned into him not gaining any self-sustaining skills.

One day, OP's line trimmer gave up on her; since she was busy, her husband volunteered to go and buy a new one. She relayed what brand she wanted, a brand the same as her other power tools.

The husband came home with a different brand and when asked why he told her he thought it was better and cheaper. That was just strike one.

Here's the post by OP

How to wrestle with relationship conflict 101:

Decisions were made:

Important Context:

Wow.

OP's husband shrugged off her annoyance and she decided not to bug him anymore. Until she saw that he didn't buy a battery pack for the power tool.

Even with much explanation from OP that she couldn't use the battery packs from her other tools, her husband still, thought he was right. He then 'compromised' with her and they went to the hardware store.

OP's husband straight-up went to the tool specialist and told him to explain how he was right. The guy sided with OP instead which left her husband fuming and afterward, told OP how she embarrassed him.

He also went on about her emasculating him constantly and continued to rant about how she should just stick to wife duties. OP snapped and it led to a rift in their marriage where he only speaks to her through their kids.

The comments were apparently not polarized

A shack that she can fix better than the said brat

If he's even man enough to face reality head on

Those notions aren't only dangerous for men to learn but women who would encounter men with them

There's a difference with wanting to do it for them than doing it because they expect you to

OP provided a timeline when the behavior started

kudos to the father for calling the husband out but still not meddling in their relationship

OP has the right state of mind to leave him if it means lessening the possibility of him passing those traits to their kids

And when you can't even tell which tool is which

It's a no win dillemma

Redditors called out to OP about what can happen to their kids if she stays with him while he continues the way he is

This Redditor even showed her how the fight would ultimately affect their children

Her husband is emasculated because his views aout what a man should be is distorted

That small thing OP put in the end about how he communicates can be a path towards toxic behavior for their kids

HIm refusing to listen would be him not learning where his fault lies

The continuation of the comment above

Not willingly righting your shortcomings because of how you were raised is a red flag

A kid who's plugging his fingers in his ears and thinking he's high and mighty

Here's how much women appreciate men who treat them as equals

Yeah, what's the harm of having a companion that can help you when you need it

It's easier to fix something than to fix broken values sometimes

OP came back to edit her post and update people on the progress her husband was willing to make. It was sort of like an ultimatum that if he doesn't change within 6 months, they would part ways.

They've decided what's best for him which was staying a distance from his father who've taught him what being a 'man' is. He also went to therapy to work on his issues.

We highly appreciate your comments if you want to share your thoughts.

Chelsi