Woman Declines Being Bridesmaid, Says She Might Be Pregnant By The Time Wedding Happens

Nothing like a hypothetical baby preventing a woman from attending a friend's important life event!

Sophia

• Published in Interesting
• January 25, 2024

In the close bonds of friendship, being there for big moments like weddings is usually seen as very important. It's a way to show how strong and deep the friendship is. Generally, unless there's a really serious reason, friends should try their best to attend these big events.

Being there in person is a strong way to show support, love, and dedication to the friendship. But, the story from Reddit brings a tricky situation to this idea. Here, a woman is torn between attending her long-time friend's wedding and her possible pregnancy.

This situation mixes up the usual expectations of friendship with life's unpredictable turns. While usually, she should put her friend's wedding first, her potential pregnancy is an important personal event that makes it hard for her to commit.

This conflict brings up a big question about how strict we should be about what friends are supposed to do. Should the chance of a big personal event like pregnancy be a good enough reason to not go to a friend's wedding?

In this story, the woman's choice to put her possible pregnancy first over her friend's wedding questions the usual rules of friendship. It shows that sometimes when life gets complicated, friendships need to be flexible and understanding, even if it means not doing what's usually expected.

Just take a look at this post...

A friend of 10 years, engaged recently, shared wedding details after previously asking her to be a bridesmaid.

Wedding date clashes with potential pregnancy/newborn plans, compounded by the 7-hour travel to another country.

Busy with wedding plans, she called her friend (2 hours away) to explain uncertainties about being a bridesmaid due to potential pregnancy or a newborn.

She reacted poorly to the news, expressing frustration about wedding plans before hanging up. Now, there has been no communication for almost two months.

Knowing her dislike for surprises and tight budget, she spilled the baby news early to save on bridesmaid expenses. Is she in the wrong?

More info from OP:

Casual bridesmaid request made in a group joke; neither recipient nor another friend took it seriously. The bride's unexpected seriousness surprised them.

Engaged, got a bridesmaid message a week later. No mention during the congratulatory call.

Excited about her destination wedding, involving travel for a destination hen do. Serious commitment with pre-wedding tasks like photo-shoots and planning.

Scroll down to see what people had to say...

Friends don't bail over imaginary bumps with storks.

Picking a nonexistent baby over a decade-long friendship? Must be one charming stork.

Baby plans on the horizon, but involvement's still a green light. Don't let a potential bun in the oven steal the bridal thunder!

Skipping bridesmaid duty is cool—like passing on a second slice. NTA, just add some chill to the timeline!

Accept the invite, add a baby bump, and suddenly it's a bridal faux pas?

Bridesmaid bait-and-switch with a sprinkle of baby drama? Or is it just the classic dodge of money, distance, and responsibility?

Saying no upfront avoids a last-minute scramble, and who needs that drama? Cheers to decisive exits!

Soft YTA: Baby-making plan post-wedding had 4 twists, son arrived in 2019, not 2016. Hoping for a better plot, but seize moments with loved ones!

"Being pregnant doesn't automatically make you have to miss things."

Two months of silence? Must've aced the drama-avoidance course!

Good intentions, but predicting pregnancies is trickier than forecasts. Suggest a chat; she's in a bridal funk, no crystal ball for pregnancies!

Live now; baby dilemmas can wait!

In the end, it seems that "I do" at weddings can sometimes clash with "I can't" in life's script. Maybe the real vows we make are not just at altars, but also in the choices we juggle between friendship and life's surprises.

After all, isn't life the ultimate wedding crasher?

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Sophia