Woman Shocked By Sister's Accusations Of Trying To Ruin Her Wedding With Pregnancy

"I expected her to be happy for me but she is incredibly angry with me"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• September 5, 2023

Weddings are emotional whirlwinds, a blend of joy, anticipation, and family dynamics. But what happens when a pregnancy coincides with a sister's big day?

One Reddit user, OP, finds herself navigating this complex intersection, facing backlash from her family for her timing. Her story sparks a compelling debate on balancing personal milestones with family events.

OP and her husband had decided to expand their family, already including a four-year-old daughter. After several unsuccessful months of trying, they put their plans on hold to accommodate OP's sister's upcoming wedding in May 2023.

Once the wedding date was set, they resumed their efforts and, against earlier odds, succeeded. OP is now expecting and will be 30 weeks pregnant by her sister's wedding.

When she informed her sister of the pregnancy, expecting happiness, she was met with anger and accusations of stealing her thunder. Reddit users have varied opinions on the matter.

Some sympathize with OP's sister, arguing that a heavily pregnant family member might indeed shift attention away from the bride. Others, however, see the sister's reaction as unreasonable, pointing out that life does not revolve around a single event, even if it's a wedding.

They argue that OP took reasonable steps to consider her sister's special day and that getting pregnant isn't a perfectly timed process. Read the full story below:

OP (sarcastically) asks:

OP and her husband had decided to expand their family, already including a four-year-old daughter. After several unsuccessful months of trying, they put their plans on hold to accommodate OP's sister's upcoming wedding in May 2023.

Once the wedding date was set, they resumed their efforts and, against earlier odds, succeeded.

When she informed her sister of the pregnancy, expecting happiness, she was met with anger and accusations of stealing her thunder

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

What is wrong with people? How self-consumed are they? It is their wedding, not some world-class event that should put the entire world on hold

"Someone else's happiness shouldn't detract from your own! It should add to it."

This family is crazy and toxic

Both of them should be ashamed

"What do they expect you to do, have an abortion?"

OP already did enough

What is it with brides?

Some humor:

The bottom line is - her family needs to get a grip. This wedding is not a world-class event

It's crucial to remember that weddings, while significant, are a starting point, not an end-all, be-all. While OP's sister may feel slighted now, this pregnancy could well be a joyous occasion that enriches their family in the long run.

OP took measured steps to be considerate and shouldn't have to put her life on hold indefinitely. Her sister's wedding is undoubtedly a landmark event, but it should not overshadow other meaningful family milestones.

Expecting the world to halt for a wedding is an unrealistic and unfair expectation. Life, after all, must go on.

Damjan