Post-Partum Wife Snaps During Christmas Dinner After Months Of Hearing Her Husband's "Observations" About Her Changed Body

"Bodies change. People age. If he can't accept that then you're going to have a hard marriage."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• January 28, 2023

The running gag on TV shows and films is the permanent exhaustion new parents tend to have after their bundle of joy is born. They look worn out and defeated but, at the same time, delighted.

If films and sitcoms are our only frame of reference, the women look immaculate after giving birth. They walk normally, look like their usual self, and seem to have magicked away all the weight they gained during pregnancy.

Realistically speaking, life is not as picture-perfect. It can take months, if not years, for a woman to "bounce back" from the trauma of giving birth.

If only this Redditor's husband knew all that, but he is in his own la-la-land. It was just a few months ago when OP gave birth to their son, and ever since then, her husband hasn't stopped making passive comments about her post-partum body.

He doesn't directly shame OP, but he makes what he calls observations which are hurtful anyway. When OP wore an old top, he commented how it used to look good on her but not anymore.

He also mentioned how unbelievable it is for her waist to grow this wide. OP tried her best to ignore his mean comments for months until he started to make them in front of his family and friends.

He finally took it too far when they visited his family to celebrate Christmas. OP's sister-in-law complimented her floral maxi dress when her husband butted in.

He said, "I agree it looks nice on you...though I have to admit that your waist could get smaller than this!" You could hear a pin drop after his comment but OP was done.

She stood up in the middle of dinner and yelled, "SHUT THE F*CK UP ABOUT MY BODY!"

He was taken aback by OP's outburst while his family tried to calm OP down. They tried to salvage the night but Christmas dinner was cut short.

Her husband didn't apologize. He went to his friend's house to stay the night and texted OP about how she embarrassed him over an observation he made.

He told OP to get therapy for her insecurities instead of resorting to verbally abusing him. OP feels like she was too sensitive and she ruined Christmas for everybody but did she?

Abuse isn't always physically visible and what her husband is doing is definitely abusive. His daily negative "observations" are making OP lose her confidence, dignity, and self-respect.

He's making her believe that her reaction is not proportional to his comments. He wants her to take all the blame because how hurtful could he have been if this is the first time she's saying something about it?

It can't be hurtful if they are true! OP's husband is a bad person and she deserves better.

They are insults designed to hurt her and make her feel indebted to him for staying with someone as "unattractive" as her

Write every insult he ever made and email them to his family. If there's nothing wrong with what he said, he shouldn't feel embarrassed by them.

If OP turned the tables and made observations about his physique, would he appreciate how helpful she's trying to be?

Call him out every single time he makes one of his little observations. If he changes, great. If he doesn't, divorce him.

OP didn't ruin Christmas at all, her husband did that all by himself

He tried to make her take the blame because he is refusing to admit what he already knows deep down — that his words are hurtful and insulting

Since he publicly humiliated OP for months, it's only right that he gets a dose of his own medicine. OP can air out their dirty laundry and let his family deal with this guy.

Even if he looked like the most perfect human on Earth, he has no right to make comments about OP's body

OP needs to protect herself and her baby from being around such a toxic person. They both deserve better.

If Redditors had their way, OP would be divorced and in therapy by now. No one deserves to hear such hurtful words on a daily basis, privately or in front of anybody else.

He is a degrading, bitter person who should know better. It's laughable that he thinks it's OP who needs to apologize when he's the one who should be on his hands and knees begging for forgiveness.

Chelsi