Woman Refuses To Contribute Anything To Parents' Wedding Anniversary Party Because They Favored Her Sister More

by May

Favoritism in a family breeds feelings of resentment, jealousy, and emotional distance. Children favored by their parents become adults who have a huge sense of entitlement.

They will lack the skills to be humble, empathic, and cooperative. On the other hand, children who weren't favored will have low self-esteem.

Within the family, favoritism creates distrust. It will cause a rift not only between two siblings but also between the parents and the unfavored child.

Favoritism is unfair to the unfavored child. They may feel that they need to compete with their siblings just to earn the love and affection of their parents.

In the end, the unfavored child will feel anger toward their parents and their sibling (maybe even both). So it's pretty obvious why a Redditor refused to help her sister organize a party for their parents.

A user named Away-String7572 shared her story on the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit. According to the twenty-six-year-old woman, it's clear that her parents favored her sister over her all her life.

So when her sister asked her to help throw a party for their parents' wedding anniversary, she refused. Was she wrong for disagreeing to help?

She asked judgment of strangers in the AITA subreddit.

The original poster (OP) wonders. Was she wrong to refuse to celebrate anniversary of the parents who didn't care much about her?

It's clear that her parents favored her sister over her. This was something that her OP's grandpa noticed.

Even on her birthdays, her sister is still the priority of her parents.

Because of favoritism, the OP became distant from her parents.

Despite what happened during their childhood, the sister still wanted the OP to help with the wedding anniversary party.

The OP refused. She doesn't want to celebrate the anniversary of the people who didn't care enough for her.

The majority thinks that the OP's decision is okay.

They shouldn't be the ones throwing the party. It's their parents' anniversary after all.

Some users want the OP to spoil the party.

It's not anyone's obligation to buy the parents expensive gifts.

Her sister never defended her.

This woman is clearly not her parent's favorite.

It's all on the sister since she decided on it. The OP doesn't need to contribute anything.

Even though she's not getting the love she deserves from her parents, we do hope that the OP is surrounded by people who truly care for her.

The OP is thinking about cutting contact with her family.

When people let go of their toxic family, they become happier.

We're so glad the OP still has her grandfather to support her.

Her sister will take all the credit.

The OP should never get anything for her parents.

Helping her sister will only make her feel bad.

There's no need to go all out for people who never considered her important.

Nothing good ever comes out of parents who show favoritism. When the unfavored child becomes an adult, it's not surprising that they want nothing to do with her parents.

That's why the OP's decision to refuse is understandable. She doesn't need to make an effort for people who didn't bother caring for her feelings.