Redditor Asks If She's An A**hole For Not Wanting To Have A Funeral When She Dies

Funerals are for the living, after all.

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• December 31, 2023

When someone we love passes away, it's customary (in most cultures) to give that person a funeral. It's an opportunity for us to honor the person's life, and a chance to say our final goodbyes.

But, what if that person never wanted a funeral? Well, this is a topic that has been causing all kinds of conflict between Reddit user u/Thotleesi94 and her husband. And, she recently shared her story in the r/AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit.

The OP explained that the subject of funerals had come up because she has sadly experienced a lot of death in her family in 2023. She says that she does not want any kind of funeral or celebration of life ceremony when she passes away.

But, when she told her husband about her wishes, he became very angry with her. He told the OP it would be selfish for her not to allow her family that right.

The OP says she believes that funerals are a waste of money and time. She has an aunt who is a funeral director, and she says that most of the money people spend on funerals is entirely unnecessary.

The OP says she believes her husband and family should be respectful of what she wants, but now she's wondering if she's the a**hole here. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The Redditor asked if she's an a**hole for not wanting a funeral.

She explained that she and her husband had been in a "rare conflict" for three days.

The OP has sadly experienced a lot of death in her family in 2023.

She says that she does not want any kind of funeral when she passes away.

But, when she told her husband about her wishes, he became very angry with her.

The OP says she believes that funerals are a waste of money and time.

She has an aunt who is a funeral director.

Here's how people reacted.

"You have a right to not want a funeral."

"Funerals are for the living, not the dead."

"Does it really matter though?"

"Rituals around death help with the grieving process."

"I don't think either of you are wrong."

"This is a very dumb thing to get mad about."

"It doesn't need to be staring at a box."

"You need a will."

"It wouldn't matter for you as you're already dead."

"People grieve in different ways."

NAH.

"It isn't for you."

"Loved ones can gather and mourn without spending a lot of money."

What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP should give in and agree to have a funeral for her family's sake, or should her husband be more respectful of her wishes?

Funerals are for the living, after all. It's an opportunity for our loved ones to share in their grief, and there is not a single person who will ever get to attend their own funeral, that's for sure.

We would love to hear your opinions on this topic. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie