Woman Finally Stands Up To Family After Years Of Being Treated Like An Outsider

That moment when it dawns on you that you might actually be the neglected child amongst your siblings.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• November 5, 2022

Children are a gift. However, these gifts come with an awful lot of responsibilities. From paying for them to get the best education to caring for them when they fall sick and, more than that, catering to their mental and psychological needs, it can be a lot.

Parents play a vital role in a child’s development; as such, they must pay attention to how they treat their kids. It can get complicated when you have more than one child, though. 

Despite having multiple kids, you can’t parent them all the same way. Hence the saying, no two kids have the same parents. 

Different children mean more doctor’s appointments, more money to spend, and most importantly, different emotional needs to cater to. And it often is possible for one child to feel neglected among the rest. 

We found a story on the AITA subreddit that paints a similar picture.

A woman shared that all her life, she had felt neglected by her family, so much so that she often felt more loved by her friends and in-laws. And although she had complained about this multiple times, nothing changed.

OP then explained that during one of the dinners organized by her parents, she revealed she was pregnant. However, her family got upset after they realized that her in-laws and friends were the first to find out, rather than them.

This led to a heated argument, and OP eventually walked out of the dinner. Now some of her family members have taken the argument to her Facebook inbox.

Scroll down to find out how the story unfolds.

OP decided to table her family issues before the Reddit community

OP explained that she has always felt neglected and sidelined by her family members

On different occasions, she brought up the issue with her family, but it was always brushed aside.

Now she decided to give them a piece of their own medicine

We gathered the best reactions from the Reddit community:

"You’ve been dealing with this your whole life, and during that dinner you finally stood up for yourself. If not anybody else, I’m proud of you for it."

"You are doing the right thing investing in relationships with people who care about you e.g. your in-laws and friends."

"You are not the asshole, you're an independent person who chose the more mature route."

"This will always be the case for middle children....just ignore them the way they do you."

"Keep walking until you are surrounded, supported and insulated by people who see you, value you and include you."

"Wow, the entitlement. You're right to expect better."

"I would double down if I were you, after the child is born, I would let them know on FB like everybody else."

"NTA - that's a classic abuse tactic."

"NTA, I have the same relationship with my siblings...I had to accept that I was and always be the ‘outsider’."

"You have been trying to discuss it like an adult even before you were an adult. What are they even talking about?"

"They sound like a bunch of hypocrites and you sound like your better off without them."

"If they wanted to have leading roles in your life they shouldn’t have cast you as a walkthrough in theirs."

OP has the comments section fully backing her. They believe she was NTA. 

Some commenters shared their own experiences that were very similar to OP. Others offered encouragement and advice regarding the steps to take following the incident.

Do you think OP was wrong to have walked out of the dinner? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

Jesse