Man Kicks Out His Deceased Mom's Family Out Of Her Funeral As They Wouldn't Stop Calling Him The "Devil's Child"
Many people find that losing their mother is more difficult than losing their father. The relationship between mother and child is special, not because they love their dad any less.
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You were grown in your mother's womb. She gave you food and care during your early years.
The mother is typically the one who has the most responsibility for the child's upbringing and spends more time at home with the kids than the father does. You go to your mother for help when you have a problem, when you need counseling, or when you split up with your first boyfriend or girlfriend.
Not only is your mother your staunchest supporter, but she is also a part of you, and you could possibly resemble her. She might be both your mother and your greatest friend.
So losing her is similar to losing a piece of oneself, and the OP didn't feel any different after losing his mom to cancer. She raised the OP as a single teen mom, and ever since he completed university, his mom lived with him and his girlfriend so that she could be supported.
OP recently found out from her diary that he was called some really mean things, like a "devil child," and her family still repeated it at the funeral. They earned themselves a ticket out of the funeral.
The OP writes
OP recently found out from her diary that he was called some really mean things like a "devil child" by her parents
OP's mom and her boyfriend ended things due to differences relating to careers, and he ended up marrying a really nice lady
This entire situation has kind of turned into one where the extended family is divided between the OP and them
A little edit from the OP to further clarify things
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I kicked my grandparents out of my mom's funeral because they wouldn't stop calling me "a mistake" and that I took her away from her parents. I might be the a-hole because I mat have overreacted and deprived them of grieving their daughter.
And the comments roll in...
Everyone's emotions are all over the place during a funeral
They obviously have some warped ideas
This redditor is sorry the OP had to hear about this
This Redditor also lost their mom years ago and sympathizes with the OP
These are not the people the OP needs in his life at the moment
The OP should chalk them out as extremely disappointing people
They are vile for treating the OP and his mom like that
They can take their disrespect outside
If they don't like the OP for whatever reason they've concocted in their heads but so desperately wanted to say goodbye to their daughter, they would have kept their mouths shut and simply not spoken to the OP. They chose not to do that and to instead cause a big scene, likely in the hope the OP would leave, or at the very least to make it all about them.