Entitled Sister Insists She Should Be Maid Of Honor, Claims There'd Be No Wedding Without Her

"I tried to ask her if she would be content with a 'lesser' role but she said she played such an an important part in our relationship that she deserves the recognition."

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• Published in Interesting
• June 2, 2024

There are no hard rules for choosing a maid of honor. Typically, the one who fills the role is a close friend or family member.

But we should remember that roles in a wedding are not something we force on the bride or groom. Never do it like this Redditor's sister, who feels entitled to the role just because she helped the relationship flourish and become steady.

A guy tells the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit that he is getting married to the love of his life. The original poster (OP) adds that they go way back in college.

His sister introduced them, as she was his fiancée’s best friend. She played a crucial role in their relationship, especially when the couple had a significant fight three years ago about their plans for children.

OP acknowledges that his sister is the reason they are still together. As the wedding planning progressed, they naturally asked his sister to be a bridesmaid, given her importance in their lives.

However, she proposed a different idea: she wanted to be the Maid of Honor, wear a white dress, and stand by the fiancée’s side during the vows, claiming she deserved this recognition for her pivotal role. OP felt this was too much, though he was fine with her being the Maid of Honor in a traditional sense.

His friends and family are divided on this issue, but he feels uncomfortable with his sister’s demands and believes she is overstepping boundaries. His fiancée, on the other hand, is more flexible and thinks it would be fine for her to dress as she wishes, causing friction between OP and his bride-to-be.

The OP's sister wants to be maid of honor and demands a whole lot of others things.

But he wants to refuse.

The OP's sister is the main reason why he and his bride-to-be are still together through all the challenges.

Now that they're getting married, his sister is demanding an important role because she's feels that she played a huge role in their relationship.

He feels his sister's demands are overstepping boundaries.

The fiancée sees no problem in letting his sister dress however she wants, but he wants to refuse.

The whole thing is causing arguments between the couple.

While it's okay to allow the sister to be the maid of honor, given her close relationship with the couple, Redditors believe her demands are too much.

According to the OP, the role was initially for the fiancée's sister.

As this user points out, the OP's sister needs to exercise humility.

It's rude and presumptuous of the OP's sister to assume that she is entitled to being MOH.

Redditors agree that his sister is overstepping her boundaries.

As users pointed out, the sister shouldn't feel entitled to the role of maid of honor just because she had a hand in making the relationship a success. If she really wants to be recognized, then she should ask for a shout-out or some form of recognition during the reception.

Ultimately, who gets to be the maid of honor should be something agreed upon by the couple. They shouldn't let the sister's entitlement get in the way of making a decision.

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