Woman Chooses Not To Spend Christmas At Her Mom's Place Because Previous Holidays Were Miserable, Especially With Her Mom's Boyfriend Around
The holidays can be a time of dread for some if they have to celebrate with their mom. We all grew up with different levels of family dynamics, and sometimes it's hard to break that habit even when we're adults.
Sure, it might not always be pleasant going home, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go at all. Reconnecting with the people who birthed and raised you is never a bad idea.
But if you're not really enjoying the company of your mom (and her new S.O.), don't force yourself to go. Christmas is supposed to be a joyous event.
So if visiting your mom isn't bring you joy, spend time with other people. Go with the ones you'll actually have fun with.
Today's post is about a woman who posted the reason why she doesn't want to spend Christmas with her mother in the “Am I The A**hole?” (AITA) subreddit. According to her, the previous celebrations were miserable.
Her mom has a boyfriend whom she clearly doesn't love. They just fight over stuff even when other family members are present for the holiday.
The original poster (OP) said she'd suck it up and visit on Christmas Eve. But when she told her mom that she won't be there for Christmas Day, the old lady got mad.
The OP mentions that her parents are already divorced and that her mom has a boyfriend.
mirror46800Holidays aren't fun to spend at her mom's place.
mirror46800Because Christmas sucks with her mom, the OP would rather spend time with her dog.
mirror46800She decided to just visit on Christmas Eve. This became an issue with her mom.
mirror46800The OP is frustrated over her mom's reaction.
mirror46800This is true!
MabelismsRedditors are with her on this issue.
aphrodis-y
The OP agrees with what a Redditor said.
mirror46800
The OP doesn't need to worry about her mom's reactions. She should spend Christmas the way she wants to.
sarcasmislife28
The mother is using her late mom to guilt trip her daughter.
If you ask us, we think that the OP's grandmother would be rolling in her grave about how her mother spends the holidays.
Shoddy-Indication-76, mirror46800
Redditors agree that she doesn't need to go even if her mom is angry.
ScarieltheMudmaid
This user thinks that the OP's mom is narcissistic.
Shoddy-Indication-76
The OP admits that her mom creates a hostile environment.
Shoddy-Indication-76, mirror46800
The OP is now considering ditching her mom on Christmas Eve.
Tyrrax, mirror46800
We're pretty sure her mom would get angrier if the OP does this.
illinoishokie
It's okay for daughters to set boundaries with their moms.
Anxious-Branch-2143, mirror46800
But instead of being thankful, she chose to resent her daughter.
redditavenger2019
What the OP needs to do.
Neat-Cardiologist442
Maybe it's time to tell the mother what makes the holidays suck at her place.
Key_Plastic_3372
The OP can visit her mom, but if she wants to leave on Christmas Day, she has to leave.
Traveling-Techie
People shouldn't put themselves through something that doesn't make them happy.
Odd-End-1405
Christmas is the season of joy. So if her dog brings her happiness while her mom makes the celebrations miserable, the choice is pretty clear.
She should spend time with the company she enjoys, even if it makes her mom mad. Using the OP's energy to deal with her toxic mom isn't worth it.
