Woman Asks If She Has Right To Be Upset After Friend Ditches Her For New Acquaintances

"She really wanted us to go out after my breakup."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• August 11, 2023

Friendships, especially long-standing ones, come with an unspoken agreement of trust, understanding, and looking out for each other. A recent account by a young woman raises the question of loyalty and the boundaries of friendship.

Growing up together, two friends, a 23-year-old woman, and her 24-year-old bestie, have shared countless memories since they were just five years old. Their bond seemed unbreakable, surviving the ups and downs of adolescence, personal struggles, and life changes. However, one evening out tested the strength of their bond.

Following a tough breakup with her boyfriend, the 23-year-old was reluctant to hit the town. She was emotionally vulnerable, grappling with weight gain and wavering confidence. Her single best friend, perhaps naively thinking a night out was the solution, finally convinced her.

Getting ready together, reminiscing about past escapades, and stepping into their favorite bar seemed like the perfect antidote to heartbreak. But as the night progressed, the atmosphere shifted. A group of older men entered the scene, and the friend's behavior changed.

She became enamored with the strangers, much to the discomfort of our heartbroken narrator. As the evening rolled on, the unimaginable happened.

The friend, entranced by the allure of the older men, decided to leave with two of them, essentially abandoning her best friend at the bar. Read the full story below:

OP asks:

Growing up together, two friends, a 23-year-old woman, and her 24-year-old bestie, have shared countless memories since they were just five years old.

OP had a bad breakup of a terrible relationship, so her friend wanted to take her out. But, she abandoned her when she met some men

OP posted a shorter version of the story:

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

Redditors feel bad for OP

OP made things clearer, and it seems that her friend turns into a different person when she drinks

"Friends should NEVER leave friends alone at bars" - common sense and a safety issue

Code says - we came together, we leave together.

Her friend wronged her - period

"A friend who ditches you for a guy isn’t worth it."

Feeling isolated, betrayed, and without a way home, the young woman had to resort to calling her father for a pick-up. The subsequent lecture from her dad added insult to injury, a culmination of an evening that began with so much promise.

This story raises a multitude of questions. Is it ever justifiable to leave a friend, especially one in a vulnerable state, alone at a bar?

Does the intensity and duration of a friendship give license to occasional lapses in judgment? In conclusion, while people do make mistakes and no friendship is without its flaws, certain boundaries should never be crossed.

Loyalty, understanding, and especially safety should be paramount in any relationship. When these are compromised, it's essential to reassess and determine what lessons can be learned and whether the bond can be mended.

Damjan