Man Wonders If He's Wrong For Calling His Fiancee Lazy For Wanting To Become "Stay-At-Home Wife"

by Ayoub

People work for a lot of reasons, some enjoy their profession and take pride in what they do but some others only work because they don't have any other options and they need to support themselves financially, which is also completely understandable. When a second option ends up presenting itself, working becomes a mere option that can be replaced with alternative activities.

Most people can't afford to stop working since they're the main source of income in their household. However, some couples sometimes agree that one of them should stop working and focus on other duties in the household, and since there's another source of income, the family manages to keep everything afloat.

The most common examples are stay-at-home parents, many couples decide that one of them should stop working and put their whole focus on raising their child and taking care of the house. Stay-at-home wives (without any children included) are less common these days, but they still exist nonetheless.

A Reddit user who goes by the username u/lazy-fiancee made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where he asked the community if he's in the wrong for "calling [his] fiancee lazy for wanting to be a stay-at-home wife".

Here's the original Reddit post by Reddit user u/lazy-fiancee:

The wife thinks working 9-5 just isn't for her.

People have some weird dreams.

Being the sole breadwinner is not something OP is okay with.

Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/lazy-fiancee's dilemma:

Her decision was not influenced by any of the people she knows.

They both have to be prepared to make some sacrifices.

She doesn't even know what her dream is.

She could've picked something like this and it would've been a valid reason.

Here's an example of someone with a productive lifestyle:

They managed to get so many things done!

Write a list if needs be.

Very important tips about powdered milk.

Calling her lazy is polite.

She never brought it up for the whole 3 years they were together.

One user pointed out that she might have problems at work.

This user is currently going through the same thing at their job and could relate to OP's wife.

As long as both partners agree to something, there shouldn't really be a problem.

They both liked the arrangement so they decided to stick with it.

This user shared the arrangement she has with her husband and it seems like they make it work.

If both people agree to the arrangement, it doesn't really concern anyone else.

Saying it one month before the wedding is also a HUGE red flag.

They both want different things now.

Now you don't have to go through with it.

He shouldn't allow her to trap him.

Many people have that exact same dream. Shocker.

It's obvious that she hasn't figured out that part yet.

Huge red flags all over, run.

This user brought up something really important that most people forgot to mention.

Reddit user r/MoonMacabre asked OP a pretty important question:

She has a dream though.

OP replied to r/MoonMacabre's question and clarified some things:

Arrangements like the one OP's wife suggested are pretty common, however, it's a huge red flag that she only mentioned it for the very first time one month before the wedding while they dated for three whole years. Things like this have to be agreed on at the very beginning and can't be randomly mentioned after spending three years of your life investing in that relationship.

I hope OP makes the right decision and if his wife is having problems related to work, he should also look into that and try to see what triggered this random recision.