Wife Spends $120 From Her Husband's Savings Account For A Night Out Without Telling Him And Continuously Denies That Her Theft Was A Big Deal

This is the $120 expense that could potentially end their marriage

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• September 25, 2023

Arguments rooted in financial issues break up a lot of couples and their marriages. So when a 27-year-old's husband of three years found out she took $120 from his savings account without his permission, he was understandably upset.

OP and her husband have separate bank accounts. It helps them keep track of their own money and, funnily enough, avoid arguing about finances.

OP lost her debit card the night before she was scheduled to have dinner with an aunt she had not seen in some years. OP didn't have cash, and her husband wasn't available to drive her to the restaurant.

OP took a picture of her husband's debit card. She linked it to her Uber account and charged her rides to and from the restaurant from his savings.

She also used her card to pay for her half of the dinner. Altogether, OP spent $120 of her husband's money without telling him.

It was not an unreasonable amount for a night out. What was not okay was OP charging her expenses to her husband's account without informing him beforehand.

The unknown charges to his debit didn't go unnoticed. OP's husband told her when she got home how he was disappointed in her for what she did.

He was hurt that OP had the capacity to do what she did

He called OP a thief. He said her actions put her character in question.

OP couldn't see why her husband was so upset. They were married and his reaction was unfair from where she was standing.

A quick, short message to her husband would have prevented their entire argument

OP just took the liberty of using his debit card without even thinking about how it would make him feel

Any adult who sees unknown charges to their account wouldn't think twice before blocking that card

My mind would directly jump to fraudulent transactions if I flag an unknown charge to my account

Taking a photo of the card was also pretty dumb

OP could have spent a few seconds to let her husband know about her plans to borrow money from him

She knows what she did was wrong. She focused on the amount she spent as if it somehow made her theft okay.

At no point when she was using her phone did she think about sending her husband a quick text about his card

Apparently, he works from home. OP literally could have spent a few seconds before leaving the house to let him know about his card. OP deleted the comment where she shared that her husband worked from home that night.

If she put in the effort into asking her husband about borrowing money instead of minimizing her mistake, OP wouldn't be the a**hole

She really is stubbornly refusing to take any responsibility for stealing from her spouse

OP has a long way to go if she wants to earn her husband's trust back

She can start by admitting that what she did was a mistake. There are no justifications for what she did, and she shouldn't try to minimize it either.

Her discomfort over her husband's disappointment should tell OP how badly she messed up. She should work on her honesty instead of evaluating her husband's feelings.

Chelsi