Woman Gets Abused By Her Husband For Buying Him Sneakers With His Money, Gets Furious When She Returns It
People keep their fingers crossed waiting for Christmas or their birthdays, and they do this for one special thing—presents. There’s a thrill that comes with opening presents, and it’s because you never know what’s in them.
When someone goes out of their way to buy you a gift, the best thing to do is to appreciate them. When people buy you gifts, it means they care about you and have you in mind.
But for the Redditor in today’s story, she got a bad response to her kind gesture. She took to the AITA subreddit community to table her issue and hear what other Redditors thought about her actions.
So it happens that 29-year-old OP is married with kids and her husband is the breadwinner of the family as he pays all the bills. Her 36-year-old husband asked her to handle grocery shopping, but first, she’d have to list what she wanted to buy so he'd know how much that will leave his account.
He also told the OP that she is not allowed to get something that isn't on the list unless she’s "paying for it some other way." Well, the OP went shopping one day and bought a "low-priced" sneaker for her husband, but instead of thanking and appreciating the OP for her kind gesture, her husband took the whole case way overboard.
Read the full story in the OP’s own words below.
And here's the headline...
My husband is the breadwinner
I'm not allowed to get something that's not on the list
I decided to grab a pair
In my defense...
He called what I did stealing
I returned the sneakers the next day
He yelled that I used his money
Did I mess up?
The post received quite a lot of attention as it got 24K upvotes and close to 4K comments. Here are some of the most upvoted comments by redditors.
1. So many red flags in this short story
2. You should stop buying him Christmas and birthday presents
3. He's controlling and you need an exit plan
4. There's no winning with this type of person
5. What you're doing is valuable as well
6. A Redditor is seriously concerned
7. Someone shares her brief relatable story
8. Financial and emotional abuse are still abuse
9. Your husband's behavior is out of control
10. Because he earns doesn't mean the money is his
11. Hope you and your kids are okay?
12. He sounds like a horrible tedious little man
13. There are many jobs you can do while at home
14. Someone really thinks the OP needs help
15. Please consider your alternatives
16. He is using coercive control over you
17. Damned if you do, damned if you don't situation
18. Provide yourself with your own allowance
19. Look at your relationship from an outside point of view
20. Put an end to this
21. He wants you to be financially dependent on him
22. You are so not in the wrong here
23. He's abusing and gaslighting you
It feels so bad to be abused by someone you did a nice gesture for. And even when you try to correct it, the person still finds fault with that action too.
You’re now left on the fence, not knowing exactly what to do anymore. What is your take on the OP’s story?
Drop your opinions in the comments below.
