Husband Makes Sudden U-Turn On Decision To Have Kids After Two Years Of Marriage

“I don’t feel the same love for him that I did before and I’ve started to resent him.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• February 10, 2024

It was no secret that our narrator (Original Poster) wanted kids, but the cherry on top was her husband’s matching enthusiasm. 

They’d been married for two years, and right from their dating phase, they talked for hours on end about how excited they’d be to finally have adorable wee humans running around.

But this couple wasn’t all talk; as soon as they got hitched, each action they took was deliberately geared towards the impending family life. Like the four-bedroom home, they purchased to make enough room for the kids, and even OP’s husband's car was tactfully chosen for its spacious back seat—a fine spot for car seats when the moment eventually came.

With this vivid picture in mind, it was clear OP and her husband were headed in the same direction—well, at least that was what she thought. 

Exactly a year ago was the moment the couple pledged to start trying. But her husband convinced her to wait a few more months to settle, which seemed fair at the time since she had recently switched to a job with more family-friendly hours.

Her unease began when he kept pushing the goalpost the moment they got closer—until he mustered the courage to drop the bombshell: he didn’t want kids anymore. The most shocking part was he claimed OP “bullied” him into the kid frenzy all this while; in his words, it wasn’t something he wanted—maybe ever.

OP was devastated, and the depression hit fast. Her biological clock was ticking, but her husband remained unrelenting.

She could feel the resentment bubbling beneath the surface. What does she do now?

The story in detail

A bit of background

The couple decided to wait a few months to settle into their new house before trying for a baby

Shortly after, OP’s husband shocked her with news that he’s no longer interested in having kids anymore

OP has gradually started to resent her husband

OP feels betrayed and is confused on weather to stay or end their marriage

OP is seeking for advice from Netizens on how to handle the situation

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“If he doesn't want kids and you do it's time to end it.”

“You can and will find someone else to love and have a family with.”

“Be careful having a child, if you decide to continue with this man. He is playing with your emotions. Especially the ‘won't comfort me’….”

Sad story from the Redditor

“If children is something you truly want, file for divorce, and as soon as possible.”

As Redditors pondered on this dicey situation, they unanimously agreed this was a serious incompatibility problem. Did John mislead OP or simply have a change of heart? We’ll never know.

What we do know is that waiting three more years and hoping for a change was incredibly unwise. The verdict? A divorce. There was definitely someone out there who shared OP’s dreams, and it was best she got moving. 

Do you agree with this verdict? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse