Redditors Back Mom For Insisting Husband Care For Their Baby Despite His Headache

"I let him know that this is extremely important to me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• September 10, 2024

One of the largest changes you may experience as a parent is going from being a couple to a family of three, or maybe more. When a first child is born, the lives of the two most significant individuals in the family expand to include a third (or more, if the child is twin or multiple).

Some parents struggle with this shift, finding it hard to accept that their partner isn't thinking about them all the time. While raising a child can be difficult, especially in the first year, some couples find that their shared experiences and growing respect for one another as parents help them become stronger.

It can be beneficial to address relationship difficulties as they arise if you are having trouble with them after having a child. The OP and her partner have been together for seven years and have a one-year-old child together.

They both work full-time—OP's partner is at home, and she is in a nonprofit. Their son goes to daycare, and the OP is in the final stages of applying for a job with the government.

OP's next assignment is a written essay that she had less than 48 hours of notice for. She went to let her partner know she'd be leaving their son home while she went to the library to do the essay, but he didn't take it well. 

The OP writes

OP's son is just about as challenging as you’d expect a one-year-old to be

OP has worked hard from freshman year in university to have this job.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I may be TA because I am insisting my husband care for the baby even though he has a headache.

The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and here are some of the most upvoted ones

It sounds like laziness and not wanting to be a parent to this Redditor

OP's husband is basically acting like a kid

He should know that it is called parenting and it is not a chore

The one year old would have been better off doing the watching

OP's husband sounds more like a dead weight to this Redditor

This Redditor could not imagine why OP's husband would be gone for that long

This Redditor is hoping that the OP will get the job she's writing for

Many Redditors pointed out that OP's husband went on a three-week boys trip in which she did everything by herself. Her partner must now repay the courtesy in order for the OP to complete a task for work because if she lands a better job, they both will win.

So just as the OP did during his three-week journey with the boys, it would be fair for him to take one for the squad. Eventually, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane