Bride And Groom's Families Clash Over The Attendance Of The Groom's Controversial Guest

"My fiancé's best friend has never been supportive of our relationship, so why should he come to our wedding?"

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• August 14, 2023

Toxic individuals possess a unique ability to cast a shadow of negativity over the lives of those around them. Their impact can be insidious, spreading like poison and infecting the emotional well-being of their friends.

In many cases, their harmful behavior becomes so pronounced that friends and acquaintances are left with no choice but to distance themselves. However, the process of severing ties with toxic people isn't always straightforward, especially when past bonds and shared histories complicate matters.

The story that follows exemplifies the complexities of dealing with a toxic individual within the context of deep-rooted connections.

Our narrator (OP) explained that everything dates back to when she first met her fiancé. Gradually, their friend groups formed an inseparable bond, and in no time, both their best friends (Sarah and Ian) started dating.

It all looked cute from the outside, but only OP and her partner could see just how much of a menace Ian was in the relationship. However, due to his charismatic nature, he always found a way to wiggle back into their hearts after being such a pain.

Eventually, Sarah and Ian ended things due to irreconcilable differences. But that didn't stop Ian from constantly harassing her whenever he got the chance.

He even went as far as flipping her off at a mutual friend's wedding in front of her new boyfriend.

Despite Ian's vile nature, OP's fiancé has found it difficult to cut him off due to their long-standing friendship. In addition, OP's MIL has backed her son to keep his "best friend" close.

Presently, the couple is preparing for their wedding, but both families are locked in an argument over Ian's attendance. On one hand, OP's family does not want Ian at the wedding because of how he harasses Sarah, and on the other hand, her fiancé's family insists that Ian should be present on their big day.

Scroll down to find out how this story unfolds.

The story in detail

A little background

Ian was kicked out of one of their friends wedding due to his terrible behavior

OP doesn't want Ian at her own wedding, but her partner and his mom think otherwise

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

OP's fiancé should really reconsider this friendship

OP and her partner need to resolve the "Ian" issue before they tie the knot

"NTA why would your fiancé want this man at your wedding?"

"Your fiance and his parents are AHs for condoning Ian's terrible behavior."

"Your fiancé needs to choose - you or Ian."

"Say NO to inviting him and remain firm."

"NTA...You want Ian at the wedding, then I won't be."

"NTA, and you don't have an Ian problem, you've got a fiancé problem."

"Tbh, if that was my fiancés BEST FRIEND, I wouldn’t have a fiancé."

"NTA but birds of a feather flock together."

OP has been able to garner overwhelming support from the Reddit community. The commenters see no reason why such a toxic individual should attend her wedding.

It's also surprising to everyone that OP's fiancé feels the need to associate with his "best friend" despite the vile things he has done over the years. This has prompted some commenters to advise OP against going ahead with the wedding.

As one Redditor said, the couple needs to go for counseling and sort out any issue that might rear its ugly head in their marriage.

Jesse