Man Whose Father Passed Away Upsets Girlfriend For "Forgetting" To Invite Her And Not Booking Plane Tickets For Funeral
Young and stupid — that's how most people are at a point in their life, especially. This tendency extends to relationships as well.
Young people typically start a relationship without knowing what it entails to keep it healthy. One big example is the lack of communication.
More often than not, some women expect their S.O. to know what they need automatically. But the truth is that people aren't mind readers.
It only takes communicating one's own needs to a partner to make the relationship more harmonious and fulfilling. The moment one assumes that their partner should intuitively understand their needs, misunderstandings may arise, and unmet expectations can strain the connection.
A story from the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit is the perfect example of what happens when people assume and expect instead of communicate. The original poster (OP) is a guy whose father passed away from a heart attack.
He was juggling the responsibilities of planning his father's funeral and making necessary arrangements. According to the OP, his father is in another state, so he has been coming back and fort when his dad was at the hospital.
However, as flights were booked and the funeral date set, his girlfriend voiced her discontent at not being invited. Despite ongoing discussions about his travel plans, the oversight became a point of contention.
In the end, the OP wondered if "forgetting" to book tickets for her makes him the a-hole.
OP wants to know if he's wrong for not inviting his girlfriend to his father's funeral.
RedditOP is dealing with his father's death.
His girlfriend creates an issue by becoming upset at him for not inviting her at his dad's funeral.
RedditThe girlfriend shouldn't demand to be present at the funeral. They have pets that need to be cared for.
RedditThis Redditor has seen the situation countless times before.
It's a classic problem in a relationship.
RedditThe girlfriend shouldn't be thinking about herself. She should be considering what her boyfriend is going through at the moment.
RedditThis isn't the time for the girlfriend to be mad at her boyfriend.
RedditIt's ultimately the OP's decision whether she comes with him or not. If it's the latter, she needs to respect his decision.
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Some women expect men to read their minds.
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One user points out that they're too young, that's why they're having communication problems.
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If she wanted to come, she should've said so.
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The girlfriend should show him support rather than be demanding.
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The girlfriend chose the wrong time to be upset. Instead of demanding that she accompany him to the funeral, she should've been more understanding of the OP's situation.
At this point, the OP has probably spent a lot of money going back and forth from one state to another. It would ease the burden on the OP if his girlfriend didn't accompany him.
Naturally, it's his choice whether she comes or not, and if he decides to go alone, the girlfriend shouldn't be upset about it.
The girlfriend also shouldn't assume that her boyfriend knows her every need. She needs to communicate it to him.
