A Woman Thinks Her Dad Is A Stalker After Being Monitored Through The Cameras He Installed In Their House

"My dad texted me at one point over the weekend and asked "who loves you?" I replied "Hopefully someone who's not a stalker creep."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• October 27, 2022

There are incidents of people being stalked everywhere. Boundaries are crossed and their mental health is a huge concern.

For those who are afraid, safety measures are usually placed and practiced. From knowing how to keep things private to alerting others when there’s the slightest hint that someone’s after you.

Because the creeping feeling that a stranger is watching your every move can spiral into something more dangerous. But what if the one you suspect as a stalker isn’t a stranger?

A Redditor posted on r/AITA and shared how she felt she was the 'mean one' in the situation for calling her dad a stalker. OP is currently living with them and has been trying to save up for her own place but hasn’t been able to actually move yet.

When the time came that her parents decided to visit her brother in college, she had to take care of their dog. The problem then kicked in when the new cameras her dad installed were used to watch where she was and talk to her through the speaker.

They could detect motion which alerted her dad whenever she went anywhere the cameras aren’t installed. OP was begging her dad to stop monitoring her because she was uncomfortable but it was ignored.

During the weekend her dad texted, “Who loves you?” to which OP replied something about hoping it’s not someone who’s a stalker. Her dad made it a point to let her know how she hurt his feelings by calling him things like that and for not interacting with him through the camera.

Was OP wrong for calling her dad a stalker?

This is her current living situation

When her parents went away for the trip, her dad started watching her with the installed home cameras

There was also rants about aliens feels weird and when OP asked him to stop because of how uncomfortable she is, it fell on deaf ears

Her dad texted her during the weekend and this is how it started for her to let him know what she thinks

Her mom is not doing anything about it as well and OP's father started guilt tripping her

Since ther were many who were concerned about her dad's mental health, OP provided an edit

Since a lot of people are concerned that his behavior is because of a problem in his mental health, OP clarified something about the aliens topic

Still, some Redditors think that it could still be related to it

What OP is experiencing with her dad was pointed out as not normal and urged her...

to take action, starting with the cameras

OP has attempted covering up the cameras but things weren’t ultimately better

For extra precaution, OP should check her bedroom if there are cameras there as well

OP’s father is believed to be crossing boundaries he shouldn’t that people recognize as more than creepy

This question was also quite questionable

OP disclosed that he often gets into her personal space

There seems to be not much support from OP’s family or else they would draw the line between what normal is and isn’t

If OP is feeling uncomfortable and they are downplaying her feelings, it might be better for her to find her own space. It might escalate to more than him ignoring her pleas or guilt-tripping as she is staying with them. 

She is voted NTA for a lot of good reasons. But still, Redditors made it clear that there is a real problem with how her dad acts towards her.

Chelsi