Man Organizes Divorce Celebration For His Brother And Gets Criticized For Being Insensitive

"No one in the family liked his wife - she was not a nice person"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• December 8, 2023

Sometimes, the best solution for an unhappy couple is to get a divorce. It might be one of the hardest decisions in their lives, but if they can't make things work, then it's obvious what their next step should be to save themselves from further pain and stress.

So, when a Redditor's brother realized his marriage was in blue for so long, he also decided to end it and divorce his wife. But the problem arose after the divorce because the Redditor wanted to do something nice for his brother, and it backfired.

OP explained his brother's recent divorce was an outcome welcomed by the family as they had long disapproved of his now ex-wife. She was known for her self-centered behavior, such as asking for suggestions on how to spend her husband's money, expecting extravagant birthday celebrations, and frequently interrupting conversations.

Her insensitivity particularly peaked during a family visit when the OP's mother, undergoing chemotherapy and struggling with swollen feet, was resting. The ex-wife callously removed a pillow from under her MIL's feet for her own comfort.

The family was silent about their concerns, choosing to tolerate her to avoid distancing the OP's brother. They privately vented their frustrations but publicly maintained a facade of acceptance.

Upon the finalization of the divorce, the OP decided to celebrate this new chapter in his brother's life. He organized a dinner with friends who had been estranged due to the ex-wife's influence.

The OP made a toast to the brother's newfound freedom during the dinner. But this moment was soured when a friend of the ex-wife heard it and made a snide remark.

Later that night, the OP received an angry message from the ex-wife criticizing the celebration. The OP's wife, previously unaware of the full extent of the ex-wife's behavior, found the OP's actions inappropriate.

So, the OP wonders if his gesture was an insensitive move.

OP asks:

OP explained no one in his wife liked his brother's ex-wife:

He also explained why:

But the family tolerated her for his brother's sake:

So, when his brother divorced, the OP organized a celebration for him:

But his brother's ex-wife accused him of being insensitive, and his wife also:

OP was not in the wrong for celebrating his brother's freedom

Just block her

The ex-wife's friend also deserves a little revenge

A Redditor agreed that the friend's behavior was unprofessional

An interesting suggestion

And the same restaurant is a must, added another Redditor

One Redditor asked why his ex-SIL was able to contact him

The OP explained

"What matters is your brother’s feelings on the issue"

Redditors told the OP that he was not in the wrong for wanting to celebrate his brother's freedom. They also told him that he should block his ex-SIL and stop allowing her to bother him.

She is no longer part of their family, and the OP shouldn't worry about her feelings.

Filip