40 People Reveal Deep Dark Secrets That They've Been Keeping From Their Partners For Years

Typically, you and your partner might say that you're the only ones who really know each other, but this isn't the case for these 4o instances of secrets hidden from their partners.

Daphnie

• Published in Interesting
• December 22, 2021

Your partner is someone you typically think that you know, maybe even better than they know themselves, but that's not always the case. How do we know that our partners are being honest with us?

Overall, you don't always know if someone is being true to you and there may not be any way that you will ever know. Some of us might keep stuff from our partners like if you spent too much money at target or if you ate their candy bar, but didn't want to tell them.

These 40 instances of people who kept secrets from their partners are a little bit juicier than just keeping that you spent too much money at Target from your partner. People in a relationship are typically known to know each other too well, but after hearing these secrets you might think they don't know their partners at all.

It all started when u/dusty_ninja asked other users on the platform, "What is the darkest thing you have kept from your partner?" This opened a huge pool of responses that were juicy, dark and some of them just being absolutely insane.

Let's look at these 40 secrets that these people have been keeping from their partners sometimes even for years.

1. Family secrets.

"I never told my wife that her mother tried to have sex with me. It was early in our marriage when we were living with her to save money for our own place. Her marriage of 28 years had ended badly and she was emotionally fragile. She was very drunk and was absolutely horrified at what she had done when she sobered up. I promised not to ever tell my wife and I never did, even when she and I were fighting near the end of our marriage. Some things are too cruel to do, even when you're trying to hurt each other."

2. Shark tooth lie

"He wanted to find a shark tooth so badly after I found one at the beach. So I went and bought a small bottle of shark teeth from the gift shop, spread them out all over a strip of beach we were hanging at and marveled at every shark tooth he brought me. I can never tell him the truth."

3. Cheating on his wife?

"I cheated on my wife....when she wasn't looking at a family pot luck."

"My wife and her sister put their peanut butter cupcakes side by side on the table and her sister makes crazy good cupcakes. My sister in law made peanut butter cupcakes with real peanut butter filling AND filled it with Reese's Peanut Butter chips. My wife only put a tiny bit of peanut butter topping on hers with no PB filling. I kept making excuses to go back to the dessert table and scarf down my sis in laws cupcakes especially when little kids were near it to make it look like they were eating most of the cupcakes. Didn't even touch my wife's cupcakes."

4. She can never tell him the truth.

"I’m from south Louisiana and my dad is in a Mardi Gras Crew. Every year he’s on a float throwing beads."

"My husband has never been to Mardi Gras so his first time he was so excited and it was at my dad’s parade. Normally people on the floats throw the “good beads” to kids or women that will flash them."

"I told my husband that if you yell “throw me something mister!” loud enough the people on the float will give you the “good beads.”

"I told my dad and he told his float buddies, when their float came around my husband was screaming like a banshee “THROW ME SOMETHING MISTER!”"

"My dad and his friend pelted my husband with their best beads. When we were leaving the parade my husband was flexing all his nice new beads and thinks Mardi Gras is the best thing ever."

"Didn’t have the heart to tell him that I told my dad to do that. He just thinks that because he was so enthusiastic, he got all the good stuff."

5. Secret hate for Dungeons and Dragons

"I freakin HATE Dungeons & Dragons.

It bores me to tears.

Yet I've orchestrates an elaborate lie that gives the illusion I love it as much as he does and once a month I have to spend 5 hours sitting through a session bored to tears.

I do this simply because its one of the few hobbies in his life he gets to enjoy and I want him to have someone to play it with.

It's been going on for 5 years now, and I have no way out lol

It's OK though, the amount of joy I see he gets from playing it gives me comparable joy. So I don't mind that much."

6. Farting wife...

"She farts in her sleep like a wild bear."

7. I think many of us do this.

"Sometimes I buy a chocolate bar when I go to the grocery store and eat it before i get home…"

8. Would you tell your wife if you didn't like her wedding dress?

"Not that dark, but I really really did not like her wedding dress..."

9. Secretly misses their SO more than they lead on.

"I have anxiety attacks when my SO is away. We joke about me believing he's dead when I don't hear from him often enough, but it's real. Like hyperventilating, heart racing, crying, rocking back and forth-real.

He loves going on roadtrips and does landscape photography. I can't ruin that for him."

10. A dark secret..

"I was born with only one hand. I have rheumatoid arthritis in the one hand I have, and I know it’s spreading. I have osteoarthritis in my lower back and scoliosis to the point where I am most likely going to need spine surgery. I’m only 31 years old. I can’t do this for another 50+ years. I am in such bad pain now and it’s only going to get worse. I have thought of suicide but I can’t do that to my husband and kids. I don’t want my husband to turn into a care giver. I can’t envision not being able to take care of myself."

11. A deep family secret that shouldn't go unnoticed.

12. Eh, can't blame them.

13. Past is your past

"Exactly how bad of a person I used to be before I met her. She knows I was into drugs and some other dumb stuff, but she doesn't know the depths of depravity I delved to in order to fit in with the people I mistakenly wasted my time with."

14. Secrets that might go untold forever.

15. Depending on your SO is okay.

"Just how much I depend on her. For our first eight or so months of marriage, my wife and I were never apart due to moving around and being in lockdown. Even now we're hardly apart since we both work from home.

She doesn't know just how sad I get when she goes away. I miss her so much, and all I really want to do is curl up on the bed and wait for her to come back. I lose my smile, I lose interest in all my hobbies, everything. Once she gets back though, I'm alright again."

16. Sad secrets of the untold

17. Uh oh....

"She doesn't know I'm straight."

18. Common secret, or red flag?

"That I feel trapped and I hate myself and my life and I really just want to disappear and move away and leave my wife and three kids so they can finally be free of me, I feel like such a burden and so guilty that my kids love me, they’d be better off without me."

19. More untold family secrets. there's an alarming amount of these.

"She's my ex now, but, she had just revealed to me some very, uh, confidential information, info I understand I'm one of only four people to know. She asked me if I have any deep secrets like that. I lied and told her I didn't, but the truth is, my grandmother by marriage (no blood relation) sexually harassed and abused me as a preteen and teenager. Literally nobody irl knows. I've never told anyone."

20. What your wife doesn't know won't hurt her.

21. Bisexual secrets?

"I’m bisexual.

I am able to talk about many morbid things I have experienced and witnessed, I could be open about how many girls I have slept with, but if the truth got out that I once had a boyfriend years ago and I still find men attractive, I am afraid that it will be over.

I have experienced enough rejection from women whenever I opened up about my sexuality"

22. Mental illness secret

"I suffer from chronic depression. My SO is super sweet and supportive, but I am afraid of unloading too much of my crazy on him. I keep dark thoughts and feelings from him all the time, I'd make him miserable if I didn't.

He knows, btw, I am not keeping all of it from him, just a lot of the excessive stuff."

23. Divorce?

24. Could you keep a secret like this to yourself?

25. Sounds like they might need some self reflection.

"I'm not sure I actually love him, or if I just don't want to be alone or start a new relationship from scratch."

26. Not a good secret to have.

"That I'm scared of him."

27. Interesting..

"I once pooped in their garage because I was waiting for her to come home and let me in. Blamed it on the raccoons."

28. Check on your loved ones

"Declining mental health and everyday drug addiction. I wish I hadn't been so good at hiding it.

I needed help."

29. Professor hookup story?

"I hooked up with a professor of mine in college and after that she would pimp me out to her colleagues. That’s not the label she would have given it, but that’s what it was."

30. Another harmless secret

31. Maybe a common problem?

32. Insecurities are normal, but are they a secret?

33. Self reflection is key.

34. Many of us hide our childhood.

"Not my gf now, but she didn’t know the extent or details of my childhood struggles. she knew I grew up in the projects up until age 10, but I think because i never wore it like a badge of honor or carried myself in the stereotypical way of someone who would come from that environment, many people think i was unaffected. and i never bothered to share those details because i never wanted to make a sob story out of a situation that i was blessed to get out of and that many people are still currently in. but that living situation has taken a toll on me in various ways that’d i love to expound upon for those who are interested."

35. Not your business or mine.

"Her father once told me : if he could go back in time, he would never have dated her mother and have kids with her. Was pretty shocking thing to hear while on vacation with the whole step family. The guy has Asperger's. Weird family. The girl left me cold turkey a few months later after 7 years together, and i still didn't even think about telling her that story."

36. Mom hated your ex?

37. Is this a common secret as well?

"That I had an abortion at 16."

38. Please get help.

39. Hiding AIDS?!

40. Is it a secret?

"That I’m probably a bit co-dependent at this point."

Some of these secrets are very dark, some are funny and some we wish we wouldn't have wanted to know about. Either way, it's crazy to hear these 40 secrets that were kept.

Share this with a friend to see what they think.

Daphnie