A CEO And A Movie Theater Employee's Marriage Is In Tatters After Their Massive Fight Over The Unequal Distribution Of Chores

He declined and said it was much easier during his grandfather's time when the homemaker didn't do anything other than her duties.

OP absolutely lost it and the couple had the biggest screaming match of their relationship. At some point, John called himself the breadwinner of the household saying that he goes out of the house to work as opposed to OP working from home to run her company.

OP shut his claims down immediately citing that she makes so much more money than him, works longer hours, and still does the chores on top of everything else. She told him to quit his job and focus on homemaking since he's so nostalgic for the simpler times.

She said that even if was unemployed, literally nothing would change in their finances and John acted all appalled after hearing all this. Come Monday morning, OP hands John a list of chores.

Those daily chores take 2 to 3 hours to complete and when he constantly complains, OP's only reply is "Quit our job." The next day, John told OP he refused to do all the chores she gave him.

She yelled at him until he relented saying she spent years doing double the chores she has given him on top of her job. She said that his choice to work an unskilled job for chump change does not excuse him from helping her, the breadwinner, to keep their house in shape.

The day after that, OP hid John's PS5 in their safe and changed the combination. OP feels like an a**hole because her actions are so far from her typical personality.

She feels guilty seeing John mope around like a sad puppy, complaining that he's tired. But she felt like she had no other choice because she couldn't enable John's belief that he's the breadwinner otherwise, she will lock herself in a life of service to him.

You can read OP's post below and judge for yourself if she's the a**hole:

"He immediately stopped doing most chores."

"I wanted to be kind."

HER DUTIES. The audacity.

"He acted appalled."

"I locked up his PS5 in the safe and changed the combination."

Someone said that everyone sucks in this situation as they sound like they're just forcing the incompatible relationship to work.

OP offered more background on how their relationship started to give more context why they're still together

She said, she would infinitely be happier if he just quits his job and stay at home to manage their house

OP also answere some initial comments saying she's not the a**hole

OP felt vindicated by all of the comments supporting her

She finally snapped after years of buried resentment

Apparently, there was an abundance of horrible relationships on Reddit that day

She correctly says that it will take more than one Reddit post to untangle this mess

Some were curious why OP's husband chooses to work at the movie theater

OP says his degree and work experience didn't open a lot of doors for him

But she doesn't have a problem with supporting him financially if he just admits that she's the breadwinner and stay home to manage their household

Another degree holder similar to OP's husband said OP should stop making excuses for her husband

OP should consider protecting her assets in case their relationship doesn't end happily

OP further shared how the issue of chores became such a big issue in their relationship

She also said she didn't enjoy locking up his PS5 because it made her feel like a mom admonishing his teenage son but it was the only thing that worked

But a lot of people seem to agree that OP is definitely not an a**hole

There are no shortages of "souplosers" in this Reddit story

OP needs to be married to a responsible adult not raise a whiny teenager

Soon enough, other people shed some light on why OP is not completely blameless here

For the most part she's not at fault but she was wrong to bottle up her feelings and wait for them to blow up

However, it's also not her responsibility to "raise" her husband

The Reddit user further clarified how OP acted like an a**hole

She was responsible for her emotions and actions yet she failed to communicate them in a healthy way and instead chose to tramp them down to build resentment

OP acknowledged how the above comment made her realize she also had faults for the blown-up fight

She posted an update later on to share her conclusions after reading the comments

Although she was right to stand up for herself after years of sexism and misogyny from her own husband, she was wrong for not verbalizing her issues sooner until she found a justifiable way to give him a dose of his own medicine

She said that it is difficult reading everyone's opinions but it was also helpful

For now, we have no idea what happened after OP talked to her husband. It's difficult to gauge whether they resolved their issues and moved on or if they chose to end the marriage.

OP was in the right for telling her husband how she feels about his devil-may-care attitude however, all this could have been avoided if they learned how to communicate properly early on in their marriage. No matter the outcome, OP is still such a badass for pursuing her dreams and building her own company.