Bridezilla Faces Backlash For Limiting Inclusion Of Fiancé’s Large ‘Rowdy’ Family At ‘Her’ Wedding

“There’s far too many of them, and I don't want a large wedding!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• January 14, 2024

When waltzing down the path of love and commitment, the quest for marital bliss isn't always a smooth ride. 

Our narrator ( Original Poster) was freshly engaged to the love of her life. Yet, as the intoxicating euphoria of saying "yes" began to settle, the couple found themselves butting heads in the wedding planning front.

The million-dollar question was: how grand or intimate did they want the ceremony? This was the point where their differing opinions clashed like swords. 

OP had never been a fan of large weddings. For her, the ideal setting was a 60-person guest list; the thought of anything beyond that made her head spin. 

The problem here was her fiance came from a very large family. When I say large, I don't mean siblings, grandparents, and a bunch of nieces and nephews—it wasn’t as simple as that.

His family tree extended to include step-siblings, half-siblings, and even great-nieces and nephews. When you really add up the numbers, it was well over seventy. They were also so involved in each other’s lives that leaving anyone out could pass as a war crime.

In stark contrast, OP came from a much smaller family. With their non-negotiable friends adding up to twenty-seven, how on earth does she achieve her perfect sixty-person guest list?

She pleaded that her fiancé trim his family's guest list to thirty. Even with her father-in-law's tempting offer to bankroll a bigger bash, OP held her ground, knowing exactly what she envisioned. 

Although OP’s parents were on her side, her fiancé tagged her as an a**hole for her request. 

How do they solve this guest list debacle?

Let’s dig into the details

A bot of background

While OP wants a small wedding, her fiancé’s family is quite large and he’ll definitely want all of them in attendance

OP’s family is a lot smaller and she’s eager to find a balance where both families are fairly represented, while still keeping the guests below 100

Despite OP’s suggestions, her fiancé is adamant that a large wedding with his 70+ family members will be ideal

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“YTA. His family is part of his package. You will be having them all at every other function!“

“The only way I would agree with you is the cost but his family said they will pay. So you have no real reason on not wanting them to come.”

“YTA. It's his wedding too and his family he's close to. Plus his family is willing to pay.”

“YTA. You are not just marrying fiancé but his family as well.”

“You are entering HIS family and vice versa, wanting to keep them out because you feel overwhelmed is selfish.”

Redditors resoundingly dub OP the asshole, noting her self-centered tone—“my wedding.”

Objections based on cost fall flat since his family offered to cover expenses. It wasn’t just your wedding, OP; it’s his wedding too! 

The verdict was clear; his large family was part of the package deal, and she’d better start getting used to it.

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Jesse