Girlfriend Discovers Her Boyfriend Secretly Hurting Her Dog, Contemplates If Choosing Her Pet Was The Right Decision

She turned to an online community for advice regarding what she chose.

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• Published in Interesting
• February 27, 2024

A boyfriend who harms his girlfriend's dog may be a potential precursor to domestic violence. Various studies reveal the direct connection between mistreatment of animals and subsequent violence against humans.

This encompasses various forms of violence such as child abuse, domestic violence, elder abuse, and other aggressive behaviors. Understanding how mistreatment of animals can lead to violence against humans really sheds light on what's going on in many homes.

And it's more than just being cruel to animals. It's a worrying sign of deeper issues.

Companion animals serve as a source of solace for victims enduring domestic abuse. Regrettably, abusers frequently exploit this bond to exert manipulation, control, and punishment upon their victims.

The abuser may resort to threats, harm, or even the killing of the animal to instill fear and maintain dominance. Such cruelty towards the animal serves as a tool to coerce the victim into returning to the abusive relationship, perpetuate isolation, exercise financial control, or compel the victim to remain.

Additionally, inflicting harm upon the animal may serve as a psychological punishment to remind the victim of the abuser's ability to assert physical dominance and control. In many instances, the abused partner opts to remain in the abusive situation out of concern for the safety of their pet.

Contemplating the plight of a woman on Quora truly brings home the weight of these situations. Through her question, she confronts the painful truth that her partner has inflicted harm upon her beloved dog. She's left wondering if prioritizing her dog over him was indeed the right course of action.

This is her question:

How do I deal with the fact that my partner hurts my dog? I just found out recently when he thought I wasn't looking. Is it right that I chose my dog over him?

It doesn't come as a surprise that people agreed with the woman's decision.

Yes, it’s right. People who hurt pets often move on to hurting people.

Your dog has only you to protect him/her. You made the right decision.

Get that man out of your life ASAP.

When it comes to loyalty, dogs are faultless.

You chose wisely. Your Dog will be loyal to you for their entire life, through anything and everything.

The guy, I would bet, would not do the same. Also, what type of person abuses a dog?

That should be the only red flag that you need.

It won't be long before the guy turns his aggression toward his partner.

Yes. If he secretly hurts your dog, sooner or later he is probably going to give you the same treatment.

You're not just choosing your dog over your boyfriend, you're choosing to put your own safety first. If you haven't already done so, dump him immediately.

Things could get worse if she's still with her boyfriend.

If he is hurting and hitting your dog then he will eventually hit you. Chose your dog, get rid of him.

There are so many more that love dogs and that is what you need. Kick you partner aside and keep the loving and trusting dog.

He is and will be your best friend. Your dog looks to you to take care of him and protect him from an abusive environment.

If you don’t then you may be your partner’s punching bag.

Getting out of the relationship is a wise decision.

Please explain how your “partner” hurting your dog when you’re not looking indicates you’re choosing your dog over your partner.

So you understand, there’s absolutely no connection. What it does show, is that your “partner” is a gaslighting narcissistic psychopath & I don’t mean to be offensive, but you’re a damn fool if you’re thinking allowing this or getting rid of your dog will improve this person’s behavior towards you.

It will do the opposite, because it’s a control move & you allowing & complying means ground has been gained by the offensive.

A word to the wise, get out of this relationship NOW, with your dog before it ends up dead & don’t look back. And next time, don’t move in or allow anyone to move in without it clearly being established your dog is permanently part of the package & will be treated kindly at all times-or it’s a no go. ❤️🐕

They all echo the same sentiment: Dump the guy because he'll eventually hurt the dog owner.

Take your precious dog and never look back.

When the scum begs to be with you again don't even let him finish a sentence.

People who are cruel to animals will always, at some point, switch to human beings.

Many hugs to you and your baby dog.

A guy hurting a dog is a big red flag. She needs to run.

Get rid of that piece of sh*t boyfriend!!! Anyone who would hurt an Innocent, defenseless animal would hurt you too!

It's a very bad sign. Choose the dog. Boyfriends come and go…a dog's love is forever.

Take care of your dog. Love him, protect him.

Your boyfriend will hurt your dog if not worse, and people who hurt dogs will hurt people ( if he hasn’t already ). You don’t need this guy.

He’s trouble. But your dog needs you and will forever love and protect you.

It is absolutely right that you should choose your dog over him. Get rid of the partner, keep the dog.

Other people would do the same thing as the pet owner.

I would absolutely choose my dogs over anyone who would dare to hurt them. Yes, anyone!

Dogs are innocent, loving creatures who see you as their whole world. Would you want to disappoint your dog by either allowing that person to stay or by not putting a stop to the abuse?

Your dog depends on you for safety, shelter, a place to feel secure, food to eat and love. Most of all, love.

They might only be a part of your world, but you are their whole world. Imagine switching places with your pup. What would you want done?

Best of luck, and God bless and keep you and your pupper. 💖

Him hurting the dog is an indicator of what he's capable of doing in the future.

Leave. He has already attacked you through your dog.

What he does to dogs he will continue to do to you. He does not love himself and thus must project such lack upon others.

You are not choosing your dog over him. You are choosing yourself and your dog over him. Leave.

When she chose her dog, she's not just doing it for her pet. She is doing herself a favor by preventing a potentially abusive partner from destroying both her and her dog's lives.

It is indeed a wise decision to choose her dog, because allowing this to happen any further will make her dog more aggressive.

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