Expecting Mom Seeks Advice Online As Her MIL Wants Her To Take A 3-Hour Flight For Her Baby Shower Despite All The Risks Involved

"Advice on the best way to communicate about the baby shower"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• September 9, 2023

A high-risk pregnancy is one that comes with heightened health risks for the expectant mother, the fetus, or both. Pregnancy can be high-risk due to a person's age and certain medical issues.

To lessen the possibility of difficulties, these pregnancies need to be closely monitored. Every pregnancy involves risk, but a "high-risk" pregnancy is one that has higher health risks for the parties.

High-risk pregnant women may require more care before, during, and after delivery as this lessens the likelihood of difficulties. However, a high-risk pregnancy does not guarantee that you or your fetus will experience complications.

Despite having exceptional health needs, many people have safe pregnancies and typical labor and delivery. The original poster of today's story is pregnant with her first child, and it was categorized as high-risk.

OP's MIL lives interstate and wants to organize a baby shower there with her family and friends that the OP mostly doesn’t know. The OP says that it isn’t going to happen because it isn’t good for her health and more importantly, the baby.

The OP went ahead to say that her baby feels like a miracle after lengthy IVF and some tough times, so she really wants to keep the peace and the boundaries. The dynamic with MIL is causing the OP anxiety, which feels dangerous to the baby.

Keep scrolling to read the full story.

Here's the headline

MIL wants to organize a baby shower with her family and friends that the OP mostly doesn’t know

The baby feels like a miracle after lengthy IVF and some tough times so the OP really does want to keep the peace

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say to OP

No is actually a complete sentence and the MIL is just being selfish

The OP has told her she's not coming and that she's not welcome either

The OP is now a mother and can make choices that's best for her

How nice of MIL to provide the OP with opportunities to learn to manage

The OP should make sure her husband is completely on her side on this issue

The OP doesn't want anyone standing over her in that moment

The OP doesn't have to open her door if she should come

She invited herself to the OP's house, she was not asked to be there

That OP's MIL let her mother stay for months after the birth of her own son doesn't mean the OP should do the same thing. There is no law that requires every succeeding generation to follow suit, so because it stresses the OP out, the baby will be stressed, too.

Many redditors agreed that now the OP is a mother, she's able to decide what is best for her and her own family.

Maryjane