Redditors Support Grieving Mom Who Snapped At Her Own Mom For Urging Her To Speed Up Her Child’s Funeral

No one prays for death, but then we can’t tell when it comes knocking.

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• April 24, 2022

Death is a painful thing, and it is even more painful for the family and loved ones of the deceased. No one prays for death, but then we can’t tell when it comes knocking.

People often go out of their way to organize a befitting funeral for their deceased loved one. And sometimes, planning a befitting event might take some time to organize.

For this Redditor who lost her six-day-old baby, she took her time planning her baby’s funeral since even a child’s funeral can be expensive. But then she had to take her concerns to the AITA subreddit community to hear their verdict about her actions.

According to her story, the OP’s mother had been pestering her to get the funeral done as soon as possible "because, in her culture, people's funerals happen a few days after their death." But then, the OP was saving up to give her child a well-deserved funeral, and she was getting fed up with her mother’s constant pestering.

She snapped at her on a certain day and told her to pay for the whole funeral if she was so desperate to speed up the process. The OP’s mom got upset with her remarks, but we’ll let you read the full story and be the judge of that.

Here is the headline...

My daughter died from SIDS

My mom wants it over and done with

I finally snapped at her

She was trying to honor her culture

With over 19K upvotes and more than a thousand comments, the post had redditors sympathizing with the OP over her loss. Here are some of their most upvoted comments.

1. A similar story from a Redditor

2. Take your time and do what's best

3. I'm deeply sorry for your loss and you have a free pass to do what you please

4. The grieving parents can do whatever they plan to

5. Don't harass a grieving woman who has lost her child

6. The OP gave more insight to the situation

7. "The emotional IQ of a tomato"

8. Broken hearted people sometimes misdirect their emotions

9. Her culture is irrelevant here

10. It was actually a reasonable suggestion

11. Her culture does not supersede your need to grieve properly

12. Having your mother pressurize while grieving isn't right

13. What your mom said is very rude

14. Your mom should not hound you like that

15. Nobody should hurry you into something you aren't ready for

16. Pressuring you is totally out of line

17. The last thing you need is to be pushed around

18. That is awful

19. Your child died and they should be more considerate

20. Everyone mourns differently so take your time

It’s not easy for anyone grieving a loved one not to talk about when the deceased is their flesh and blood. People ought to let the grieving be and not pressure them into doing what they are not ready for.

But did the OP go about the situation the right way? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

Maryjane