Redditors Support Grieving Mom Who Snapped At Her Own Mom For Urging Her To Speed Up Her Child’s Funeral
Death is a painful thing, and it is even more painful for the family and loved ones of the deceased. No one prays for death, but then we can’t tell when it comes knocking.
People often go out of their way to organize a befitting funeral for their deceased loved one. And sometimes, planning a befitting event might take some time to organize.
For this Redditor who lost her six-day-old baby, she took her time planning her baby’s funeral since even a child’s funeral can be expensive. But then she had to take her concerns to the AITA subreddit community to hear their verdict about her actions.
According to her story, the OP’s mother had been pestering her to get the funeral done as soon as possible "because, in her culture, people's funerals happen a few days after their death." But then, the OP was saving up to give her child a well-deserved funeral, and she was getting fed up with her mother’s constant pestering.
She snapped at her on a certain day and told her to pay for the whole funeral if she was so desperate to speed up the process. The OP’s mom got upset with her remarks, but we’ll let you read the full story and be the judge of that.
Here is the headline...
u/funeral038181My daughter died from SIDS
u/funeral038181My mom wants it over and done with
u/funeral038181I finally snapped at her
u/funeral038181She was trying to honor her culture
u/funeral038181With over 19K upvotes and more than a thousand comments, the post had redditors sympathizing with the OP over her loss. Here are some of their most upvoted comments.
1. A similar story from a Redditor
Alisaurusrex822. Take your time and do what's best
whatjealousyis3. I'm deeply sorry for your loss and you have a free pass to do what you please
thankuhexed
4. The grieving parents can do whatever they plan to
NUT-me-SHELL
5. Don't harass a grieving woman who has lost her child
Kayhowardhlots
6. The OP gave more insight to the situation
marheena
7. "The emotional IQ of a tomato"
HippieInAHelicopter
8. Broken hearted people sometimes misdirect their emotions
Abd36u
9. Her culture is irrelevant here
SirEDCaLot
10. It was actually a reasonable suggestion
Lawn_Orderly
11. Her culture does not supersede your need to grieve properly
Legitimate_Essay_221
12. Having your mother pressurize while grieving isn't right
Dork86
13. What your mom said is very rude
Primary-Criticism929
14. Your mom should not hound you like that
H_H_B
15. Nobody should hurry you into something you aren't ready for
NmlsFool
16. Pressuring you is totally out of line
VixNeko
17. The last thing you need is to be pushed around
Megmca
18. That is awful
Shot_Western_2755
19. Your child died and they should be more considerate
Adventurous_Aide_456
20. Everyone mourns differently so take your time
middlingwhiteguy
It’s not easy for anyone grieving a loved one not to talk about when the deceased is their flesh and blood. People ought to let the grieving be and not pressure them into doing what they are not ready for.
But did the OP go about the situation the right way? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
