Woman Posts Offensive Texts From Her Ex-Husband To Help Women In Abusive Relationships

Do not make excuses for the abusers in your social circles. Help victims instead!

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• September 11, 2021

Abusive relationships are all around us, but they are usually very well concealed. To an untrained eye, these couples look great, but experts can notice the little tells.

Most of us are not experts, so it comes as a shock that our favorite couple to hang out with is actually living a real, but well-hidden family drama.

It's easy to say – just leave. There are so many things involved. It's a complicated, frightening web of threats and blackmails, especially where there is child custody at stake.

One woman posted screenshots of her abusive ex-husband's texts to explain what it's like on the inside of a bad and abusive relationship. She is no longer with her ex, but she wanted to help other women to recognize such relationships and leave.

First, he’d repeatedly send her a salvo of paranoid text messages while she was at work, even though he knew she wasn’t permitted to have her phone with her while on shift.

Another message shows Adam cross-questioning her about her colleague, Tony, who changed her tire once.

The following message says that he actually set traps to see if she was sleeping at home or not. She slept at a female friend’s home that night.

And then we find out that Adam also physically molested Kristy, then told her not to tell her family about it even though they could see the marks.

Adam even made Kristy take pictures to prove that she wasn’t dishonest about her whereabouts.

He also forced her to step out at midnight every night to talk on the phone. She did her best to comply with his absurd demands, he still criticized her and even told her that she couldn’t come home anymore.

“Adam wasn’t always this way. He used to be kind and loving,” Kristy says. And then she lost weight and found a job. That’s when the abuse started.

“I finally got the guts to leave when he hurt my dog and kitten,” she said. “3 years later, and I’m actually doing great… I save these text messages to remind myself how far I’ve come.”

Damjan