Woman Asks If She's Wrong For Not Supporting Her Cousin During Problems In A Marriage That Entire Family Disapproves

The wedding didn't even have a happy ending.

Liezel

• Published in Interesting
• January 11, 2023

Typically, when people get married to the person they think they love, they often try to get their family's blessing first. After all, the other person will become part of that family after tying the knot.

However, getting your family's blessings can be one of the most nerve-wracking things ever, especially if your partner hasn't spent as much time with them as you want, among many other things. And the worst part is dealing with rejection.

That's one of the hardest things in the world to bounce back from. There you are, ready to spend your life with your partner, but the people you also love and cherish don't want him.

So you either choose one or fight ferociously for what you want. And if you do get what you want, there will be damages, and sometimes, the damages are irrevocable.

That's what the cousin of Redditor usernamedoesnotmake is going through right now. When her parents were against the marriage, she begged OP to support her and help her convince them, but OP refused.

And while OP's cousin still got what she wanted, she didn't end up with her fairytale ending. And now, she wants OP's help again, but OP can only do so much.

After some drama, OP is now wondering if she's the jerk in all this. Here's the whole story.

OP asks:

OP was caught up in all the wedding drama of her cousin

And OP refused to side with the bride

Now that OP's cousin realized that she isn't getting her fairytale, she's asking OP again for help

But OP only gave her the cold hard truth

While OP's cousin might have married for love, her parents did have a point. It's not like they were just out to ruin the love life of their child.

She should have at least considered it but alas, what happened happened and now, she discovered that she was not going to get her little happy ending so easily.

As for OP's reaction to her pleas for help, we think it's completely logical. OP has boundaries too plus, she's not obligated to do anything just because they're cousins.

Many people in the comments section agree as well. Here are the best comments.

1. The cousin should take responsibility for the mess she willingly got herself into

2. She should have had a good trial run before sealing the deal

She also should've thought about her actions before asking for the sympathy

3. OP deserves to have boundaries too

4. It's solely up to you how much you give someone

5. The baseline is it's not OP's responsibility

And OP could do well as she pleases

6. The red flags were all there

And OP's cousin didn't run out of people giving her advice

7. The cousin does need to get out of that marriage though

But she has to have the strength to go through with it

8. Help her the right way

9. The cousin does seem to be trying to use family to avoid facing the consequences of her actions

But she has to accept responsiblity over her actions if she wants any decent help

10. The fact is the cousin wanted it

11. OP is not responsible for her cousin's mistakes

Her cousin willingly ignored all the red flags

12. The cycle repeats itself

13. She wanted it, now she's got it

14. She's a grown woman who can figure things out

Plus, she and OP haven't been that close in a while too

15. The cousin is lucky OP even offered some kind of help despite her attitude

16. No one forced her to make those choices

17. The cousin is causing her own troubles

18. It's not OP's fault her cousin keeps declining the help that would actually help her

19. Actions have consequences

20. Now, this is what we call dealing with your very own karma

As many of these comments have said, OP's cousin made her own problems. She refused to listen the first time around and now, she's being picky with what others can do to help her.

OP has boundaries too and she has a right to use them, especially when someone like her cousin is trying to drag her into the drama. What do you think of all this?

Liezel