Mother-In-Law Throws Wedding Plans Into Chaos By Suddenly Objecting To Chosen Date Due To Past Tragic Event

“She waited until after we put all the deposits down to say something?”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• April 21, 2024

For many couples, the road to “I do” isn’t exactly paved with rose petals, but our narrator’s (Original Poster’s) case was truly one for the books. OP recently got engaged to her amazing 25-year-old fiancé.

They’d been together for nearly seven years, and let me tell you, planning their wedding had been quite the adventure. First thing first, they settled on a date, and after nods of approval went round, the couple began locking in all the details—DJ, venue, food, and photography, you name it. 

The deposits were down, and things progressed without a hitch—until one fateful Zoom meeting. In the middle of a creative brainstorming session about engagement photo ideas, OP’s mother-in-law casually dropped a grenade.

Thirty years ago, she lost her first child to SIDS. The tragic anniversary was two days before OP’s wedding date, and she wasn’t okay with that. 

OP’s excitement instantly took a nosedive. I mean, her mother-in-law was right there in the room when the wedding date was announced, and she waited until this moment to bring it up? Yikes. 

OP’s heart broke for her loss, but she really thought it wouldn’t be a problem since the wedding wasn’t on the exact day. Her fiancé was even on board!

To add another layer to the drama cake, her wedding date was also a beloved uncle's birthday. He passed away a decade ago, and it was her little way of honoring him. There was also the issue of all those non-refundable deposits they’d put down months ago. 

Was OP the bad guy for still wanting to stick to her date? Keep reading to find out the final verdict.

The story in detail

A bit of background

Apparently, OP’s MIL lost her first child 30 years ago, around that time. But it was not on the exact same date of OP’s wedding

OP and her fiancé are not willing to change the date, especially since they have put all the deposits down

Check out some interesting comments from concerned Netizens:

“NTA. Grief is weird, yes, but I find it odd that it occurred to her so suddenly.”

“NTA. I suspect something else is going on here since she had no objection all the way through the planning stage.”

“NTA. Pick the day you want and MIL can either show up and use that date as a positive memory or she can stay home alone and cry.”

“NTA. She could have said something but she chose to remain silent.”

“A reasonable person wouldn't say anything, she is trying to get attention and make herself the victim.”

“NTA. People don't ‘own dates’ and block out that date going forward in the future.“

“NTA why did she just tell you after all the deposits and not right away?”

“The MIL forgot to be offended on time lol.”

In the wise words of Redditors, OP definitely wasn’t the villain here. She gave everyone ample time to voice their concerns, but her mother-in-law chose to stay silent till after plans were in full swing.

Could it be a perfectly concocted ploy to draw attention to herself? Most Redditors seemed to think so. Some even warned of potential attention-seeking behavior at the wedding and advised caution moving forward. 

In the meantime, OP was urged to enjoy her special day and push all unnecessary drama aside.

Do you agree with the commenters? Let’s get your thoughts.

Jesse