Bride-To-Be Becomes Uncomfortable After Her Fiancé Asks Her To Make His Female Friend, Whom He Hooked Up With Years Ago, One Of The Bridesmaids

The fiancé even wants his soon-to-be wife to get to know this female friend.

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• Published in Interesting
• January 27, 2023

Women who have already gotten married know how difficult it can be to choose their bridesmaids. So the first thing that brides-to-be should ask themselves is "Who are the people closest to me?"

She should think about the people whom she wants to be with on her special day — those who'll be happy to see her take an important step in her life. However, a woman also needs to think about a person's availability.

You need these people to be present on your wedding day. They need to be ready to take on the role of a bridesmaid.

Ultimately, the most important thing is that you choose the people who you know will support you during the planning process and on your wedding day. But what if the groom wants a certain person to be one of the bridesmaids?

Does he get a say on who becomes part of the bridal entourage? This was the topic of discussion when a bride-to-be posted on the TrueOffMyChest subreddit.

BandiBabs93, the original poster (OP) opened up about her soon-to-be-husband 's female friend. She mentions that this friend and her fiancé hooked up a very long time ago.

The OP became uncomfortable after getting asked by her fiancé to include this woman in her bridal entourage.

The OP has no issue about his fiancé having a lot of female friends.

But there's one female friend who's making her uncomfortable.

The OP says she's a spicy accountant.

Spicy accountant is term that originated in TikTok. It means "OnlyFans content creator."

When the OP met this woman, she saw her getting too flirty with her fiancé (who was her ex at the time).

The fiancé wants the OP to get to know his friend better.

The OP doesn't want to replace her friend with her fiancé's friend.

Only the ones who are close to the bride should be bridesmaids.

The OP can meet halfway with her fiancé with the suggestion above.

The fiancé should not disregard and disrespect the OP's feelings.

Others would just blatantly say no to the fiancé.

The OP needs to consider the thought that she'll be seeing this friend in her wedding photos.

A Redditor thinks that it's possible for the fiancé and his friend to hook up in the future.

This woman must not be present in the fiancé's bachelor party.

Brides can also have bridesmen.

Redditors think that having that woman in the wedding is a bad idea.

Letting the fiancé's friend attend the wedding needs to be a mutual decision between the couple.

Even other women would have issues if they're in the OP's shoes.

Redditors also want to confirm if a hook up didn't take place during their breakup in the past.

The OP needs to be honest with her husband-to-be.

She also needs to set boundaries, and that includes not letting this friend attend the wedding.

Redditors have no doubts that the fiancé will cheat on her with his friend.

The OP can always refuse her husband's request, especially since the bridesmaid role is reserved for people who are close to the bride. She needs to discuss her fears with her fiancé.

As for the guy, he needs to listen to his wife-to-be and respect the boundaries she will set.

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