Teenager's Request To Have Boyfriend Over When Her Parents Are Away Is Met With Rent Increase

"It's just more of a hassle than I want to deal with"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• December 30, 2023

Being free to make your own decisions is one of the best aspects of living alone. You are in charge of buying and preparing your own food.

You can come home anytime you choose, and you can go on dates without first talking to your parents. However, there may be difficulties if you live at home with your parents, are in a relationship, or are actively dating.

Having to set limits with your parents about your dating life or having to set boundaries with your dates about your home life—I'm not sure which is more intense. However, you can live with your parents, your date or partner, and yourself as long as you're speaking with everyone. 

The OP and her boyfriend have been together for 3 months. She pays her parents $500 in rent every month for one room in the house that she has to share with most of their belongings because they are renovating.

They will be out of town for a week, so the OP asked them if she could have her boyfriend over for one of the nights they are gone. The reason the OP asked is because they are not ready for them to meet each other, but she has spent nights with him before.

Also, he lives a little bit away, so it'd be nice if they didn't have to book a hotel for once, but her stepmom gave her a shocking reply. Read all about it as you scroll down below.

The story's headline

OP pays her parents every month 500 in rent money for one room in the house

OP really wants a lease agreement if they're going to threaten her with higher rent

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I believe I might be the asshole because I don't know if she is allowed to raise my rent like that and I questioned her on it heavily along with asking for the lease agreement

And the comments roll in...

Having his own place

The chance for them to meet

They don't have to house the OP

She's worse than unreasonable

The OP added more details in the comments section

I may have phrased it incorrectly in my post, but I asked my father first. Then I went to my stepmother because I figured it had been a few days. They had had a conversation maybe about it but they did not. And also they have a lock on their door, full pin pad and everything I genuinely do not know why.

OP should have guests

OP has ADHD

Best advice is to get away

Being taken advantage of

The OP says that she and her boyfriend's relationship is a pretty average one around the rural part of Canada, and age gaps like the one they have are very normal there. OP also says that she was diagnosed autistic and has ADHD, so she's on medication that leaves her unable to drive.

So she says it's better her boyfriend comes over to their house, yet she was declared the AH.

Maryjane