Woman Thankful After Advice She Got On Reddit Helped Fix Her Marriage

Three years later, we have an update.

Lakeisha

• Published in Interesting
• November 10, 2022

A Reddit user who goes by the handle "whatdoesthismeantho" took to the AITA subreddit to give an update to a post she created back in 2020.

In the 2020 post, whatdoesthismeantho complained that her husband, who earned roughly $195k annually, makes her pay half their rent from her $50k annual income, leaving her with little to spend on herself.

whatdoesthismeantho was earning $65k at a previous job but quit for a lower-paying remote job so she could care for their newborn baby. In the update whatdoesthismeantho gave, she said she took virtual therapy sessions and later proposed to her husband that they should go for couples counseling.

Her husband agreed, and to this day, they still have weekly counseling. According to whatdoesthismeantho, counseling helped her husband address the root of his fears as he later discovered that his trouble with trusting her financially was due to the beliefs he had growing up.

Although she admits that everything isn't perfect now, they have made progress, and there's more trust in her marriage. Now, they have a joint bank account where they both put 2/3 of our incomes while keeping the reminder for their personal needs.

She also added that she has a new job now and is making much more money than in the original post. whatdoesthismeantho is thankful to everyone who supported and advised her in her first post because they nudged her in the right direction.

Here's how the AITA community responded to the update.

This is how it started.

Couple counseling helped them.

They turned their lives around.

We're happy for the happy ending! Then Reddit responded.

1. Happy to learn about their progress.

2. She should ask for back pay for all the times her husband wasn't supportive.

3. She should get a "post-nup" to protect herself and her children.

4. It's great that things are better now.

5. It would have been better if her husband had realized sooner that parenting was hard work.

6. It's good that they are both getting therapy.

7. It's heartbreaking that she went through that.

8. Her husband was misogynistic and selfish.

9. Finance is an important topic that should be addressed before marriage.

10. It is good to work on a relationship rather than end it.

11. Her husband had a bad upbringing.

12. Seeking therapy was a good idea.

13. Her husband owes her for his financial abuse.

14. Hope her husband understands he wronged her.

15. Her husband should pay her if he's truly sorry.

16. Kudos to the couple for working things out.

17. Hope things keep getting better between them.

18. They should re-evaluate their old prenup.

19. They shouldn't contribute the same amount.

20. Ending a relationship isn't always the best answer.

What Do You Think?

It is often said that one shouldn't take advice from strangers online because many people you meet on public forums are merely armchair experts.

However, there are cases where advice from netizens has yielded positive results.

Regardless of whether you are getting advice online or offline, it is important to sift through advice and decern which is good or bad.

Lakeisha