Mother Threatens Not To Attend Daughter's Wedding, Pressures Her To Add More People To The Guest List

The mother's meddling has led to a delay in the progress of the wedding plans.

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• Published in Interesting
• August 30, 2023

A wedding is such a joyous occasion that you and your partner would naturally expect the planning stage to be filled with excitement and joy as you envision every detail coming together for your special day. Sadly, this isn't the reality for every couple.

Case in point: a soon-to-be bride who shared her story on the Relationship Advice subreddit. The original poster (OP), who opted to use a throwaway account, tells the community that she and her fiancé want to get married by summer's end.

The couple decided they'd finance the wedding even if her parents offered to pay for it. Her biggest problem during the wedding planning is her mother, who wants to invite more people to the wedding despite having a smaller venue and a set budget.

The venue they rented can only accommodate 58 attendees, and the guests will only include close family, friends, and coworkers.

But the OP's mom wants it to be a grand wedding with more than 200 guests. The OP then discovered that her mother had extended invitations to distant relatives whom the OP had no intention of inviting.

This situation left the OP feeling upset since accommodating these additional people wasn't possible. As a result, an argument quickly unfolded between her and her mother.

Despite her efforts to resolve the matter, the conversation escalated to a point where a threat was made: her mom, dad, and sibling wouldn't attend unless she complied.

The OP just wants to get married soon with her fiancé, but her mother's interference is causing delays.

The OP and her fiancé decided they'll pay for the wedding themselves.

Their guest list will be limited since they only have a small budget. But the OP's mom wants the event to be a big one.

The mother started inviting more people without the OP's permission.

The mother wants the OP to uninvite some of the OP's friends to give way to the mother's guests.

The mother threatens the OP that she won't attend along with the OP's dad and sibling.

Users agree that the OP's mom is a terrorist.

The OP has to accept that she can't make her mom attend without bending to her mom's will.

The OP doesn't need a narcissistic mom to her wedding.

The reality is the OP simply can't reason with her mom. She has to go through the wedding without her immediate family members.

The OP doesn't have to talk to her mom. She can just convince her dad and sibling to come.

It might be time to consider excluding the mom from the wedding planning process.

The OP's mom is a hopeless case. She needs to accept that her wedding will push through without her mom (and even her dad and sibling).

At this stage in her life, it's also not ideal to bend to her mom's will. That would be equivalent to letting her mom control the most important aspects of her life.

She can plan her wedding peacefully if her mom is out of the picture.

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