Redditor Says She Regrets Letting Her Mom Talk Her Out Of Having An Abortion

"Find a nice family for your baby."

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• August 7, 2023

The decision to have a child is a serious one, and in turn, so is the decision not to have one. Especially when the little one is already on its way.

Reddit user u/throwraunwantedpregn recently shared her experience with an unwanted pregnancy in the relationship_advice subreddit. The OP explained that she found out she was pregnant a few months ago, and immediately planned to have an abortion since she is only 21 and is troubled with mental health problems.

But when the OP told her mother about her situation, her mom made it clear that she would not support the OP if she went through with terminating the pregnancy. The Redditor's mom promised she would help her raise the child and support it financially if she decided to keep it.

Before long, OP's mother started telling people about the pregnancy against OP's wishes. This made the OP second guess her decision, so she canceled her appointment at the clinic.

But as soon as the OP did that, her mother began spreading the news of the pregnancy even more. Now the OP felt like she couldn't change her mind even if she wanted to.

Now that it's too late for an abortion, the OP is regretting not going through with it. She says she has even considered abandoning the baby and leaving it with her mother once it's born.

She says she is apprehensive about putting the baby up for adoption, so she feels she has no other choice. But, to make matters even more difficult, the OP is still financially dependent on her mother, so leaving would be almost impossible.

The Redditor says she can't bring herself to talk to her mother and let her know how much she resents her. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The OP asked for advice on telling her mom she resents her for pressuring her into not having an abortion.

The OP explained that she found out she was pregnant a few months ago and was planning on getting an abortion.

But the OP's mother made it clear that she did not approve of terminating the pregnancy.

The OP delayed the abortion, and now that it's too late, she's regretting not having it.

In an update, the OP said she still hadn't spoken to her mother about it.

She explained that she's apprehensive about potentially putting the baby up for adoption.

The Redditor says her mother is not religious and has supported other people in getting abortions.

She also explained that she is still financially dependent on her mom.

The OP was diagnozed with PTSD and Bipolar Disorder.

She explained that she got pregnant because she forgot to take her birth control pill.

Here's how people reacted.

Pregnancy hormones can be tough on your mental health.

"Give the child up for adoption."

"Cut off your mom."

"Just say you miscarried."

Research the laws.

"She was selfish in pressuring you."

"Find a nice family for your baby."

What about the father?

"If you're not ready, then you're not ready."

"You can't be a mother now."

"Do not give that baby to your mother."

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP should have gone through with the abortion under the circumstances, or is it a good thing that her mother stopped her?

We would love to hear your opinions on this situation. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie