Husband And His Mom Leave No Food For Exhausted Wife Who Was Late Because She Was Breastfeeding Her 5-Week-Old Baby

"Breastfeeding while on an empty stomach. That’s like going into debt."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• October 25, 2022

Giving birth to a baby is a depleting event in itself and taking care of one can truly test your limits as a person. Friends and parents who are willing to help during this trying period can be a welcome miracle in the parents' eyes.

That is if the parents asked for help in the first place which OP's mother-in-law did not do. OP was five weeks post-partum and her husband's mom has been staying at their house ever since.

She sleeps in their living room and feels comfortable enough to ask her friends to come over to see how great of a grandmother she is. OP can't complain because if she utters even a negative word about her MIL, her husband will scold her.

He says OP should be grateful for everything his mom has been doing for them. Instead of stressing out, OP chose to focus on her son instead.

OP is still waiting on her MIL's help since OP handles the baby's feeding, diaper change, and everything else. The one good thing about her MIL staying there is she cooks food for them.

That changed when OP was late to dinner one night because she was breastfeeding her son. After that, OP went to the living room and saw her husband and his mom watching TV.

OP asked about dinner and her husband pointed her to the kitchen. When OP was about to go into the kitchen, her MIL said she didn't save OP any food.

Apparently, being late for dinner because you were breastfeeding your son meant you weren't hungry

OP snapped and yelled that it was obvious that she's hungry since she is breastfeeding a growing baby

MIL just shrugged her shoulders and said that it's not her fault OP didn't bother showing up for dinner

OP's husband sided with his mom instead of defending OP. They argued more but OP got tired of it and called her brother to pick her up then take her to their mom's place.

OP's brother bought her food on the way over and OP devoured all of it while her husband kept calling her. He demanded OP to return and to stop punishing him over food.

OP doesn't know how long she will stay at her mom's place but insists that her husband can visit them anytime he wants but he refuses to go because he hates OP's mom

OP caved and sent her husband photos of their baby sleeping but he turned that against her. He also called OP a b*tch which really shocked her.

He retaliated by sending a photo of him and his mom cooking dinner then telling OP that they are excluding her for real this time

He messaged OP again telling her that he will only visit her and their son if OP's mom is not in the house because he apparently hates her that much. OP said that's not something she can ask her mom to do. It looks like OP, her mom, and the new baby will be roommates for a while.

It's no wonder that OP ate like a bear when her brother bought her some food

It's not really about the food, is it? It's the fact that they deliberately ignored OP's needs.

This should have been the case but OP's husband and MIL are in a league of their own

The only person she's doting on is her grown son

OP's MIL is more of an obstacle and an unwanted guest more than she is a support

OP can't even voice her own opinions without her husband biting her head off

Sadly, this is true:

Neither of them are actually helping OP take care of the baby and she's left to do all of the childcare while they make her feel like she owes them gratitude

A Redditor advised OP to ignore her MIL and deal with her husband who is the root of her problem

OP said there was no need to meet up at a random café when he can go to her mom's house anytime he wanted to discuss things but he refuses because of an arbitrary dislike for her mom

He doesn't like her mom because she sides with her when MIL and OP's husband team up against her. What a catch this guy is.

There seem to be no resolution to be had after those petty retaliations he did

The numbers don't lie

Neither of the three choices are acceptable anyway but it's better to know how much of an a**hole they were

OP believes her MIL didn't cook enough for three people and OP was too tired to cook her own food from scratch which is understandable

What was their reasoning for not leaving food for OP anyway? What were they trying to prove?

MIL is not leaving because she likes being praised for being a grandmother

That's the most hurtful part. They know how hungry and tired OP will be but they didn't care to consider her needs and by extension, her baby's.

It doesn't sound like OP is living in a very healthy household if she can't even ask questions

OP needs to keep any and all evidence of communication she has with her husband in case they separate

The evidence she collects will help protect both her and her baby

OP can't even fully trust her own judgement since they have convinced her so successfully that they can do nothing wrong

It's sad that OP even had to ask if she was wrong to be mad after what they did to her. She just gave birth, she is taking care of her newborn 24/7, she is breastfeeding, her MIL decided she can intrude in their home, and they can't even bother to leave her food.

Anyone in that situation would snap. OP and her baby are better off if they stay indefinitely at her mother's house where they will want for nothing.

Chelsi