49-Year-Old Mom Admits Attraction To Daughter's Boyfriend, Husband Is Furious

"This is a whole new level of cringe."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• March 17, 2024

A 49-year-old saw trouble on the horizon when she met her daughter's 24-year-old boyfriend for the first time. OP's daughters, Alice and Andrew, have been dating for four months.

They met at a university where they were both grad students. OP's family took an immediate liking to the handsome and intelligent Andrew.

He even helped OP's youngest son with his coding homework. OP's husband, Tom, who typically kept their children's partners at arm's length, was charmed by Andrew.

OP saw the sparks flying between Alice and Andrew. The looks they exchanged were enough to prove how enamored they were with each other.

The only problem was OP liked Andrew a little too much. She was mortified when she realized she had feelings for her daughter's boyfriend.

OP feared Alice's reaction if she were to find out about her feelings. OP said she loved her husband, but her feelings for Andrew caught her off-guard.

Her fears came true when Andrew stopped by to join them for dinner and movie night. He was present at some of these movie nights where OP found it difficult to be around him.

OP felt she couldn't control her thoughts when Andrew was around, and she also hated seeing Andrew and Alice together. During this movie night, Andrew notices how OP behaves around him.

Andrew caught OP staring at him, his face went red, and he avoided OP the rest of the night.

OP was afraid that Andrew would say something to Alice. OP decided to get ahead of the issue and decided to be honest with her husband.

Tom found OP's crush on Andrew to be creepy. He decided to sleep in the guest bedroom that night and has since avoided speaking to her.

OP said she is aware of how inappropriate her feelings were. She wouldn't have said anything to Tom if she didn't think Andrew would say something to Alice.

How should OP handle the unavoidable mess she created?

OP is supposed to be the mature adult here. Why did she need other people's input when she has enough self-awareness to admit that her feelings are inappropriate?

If OP can't let her feelings for Andrew go, she might as well say goodbye to her family because there is no bouncing back from letting the situation go further.

OP needs help. She also needs to make an effort to earn her husband's trust back.

OP needs to leave the house whenever Andrew is around if she can't restrain her emotions.

In OP's update, she shared that Andrew did tell Alice about his observations. OP's behavior made him uncomfortable, and he doesn't want to be around her soon. Her husband isn't as upset anymore. OP said she would make amends.

Before the discussion got too intense, OP made it clear that her post was fictional.

She said she was probably inspired by the song "Stacy's Mom," which she listened to hours before writing her post.

Posts in the r/AmItheButtface subreddit are stories that aren't messy enough to get approved on the Am I the A**hole subreddit. The sub also allows fictional scenarios from their OPs as long as they are categorized properly.

If this OP's story played out in real life, the OP would be at fault. Her fictional husband was right, it was creepy for her to have a crush on their daughter's 24-year-old boyfriend.

Chelsi