Enraged Mom Tells Her Daughter-In-Law She Will Never Be Welcome In Their Family Because She Bullied Her Daughter In High School

"It's a final bullying move to f*ck her way into her victim's family."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• January 13, 2023

Did you ever see that Betty White and Kristen Bell movie where Bell's high school bully gets engaged to be married to her brother? "You Again" is a rom-com, so it ends with all of them forgiving each other and welcoming the bully into the family.

Real life is not as clean-cut as Hollywood movies, as this mom would tell you. She posted on Reddit about her daughter's high school bully marrying one of her other kids.

Ella, the bully, started targeting OP's daughter during their sophomore year for reasons unknown. They made nasty comments about her physical traits that largely caused her to develop an eating disorder.

She rapidly lost weight and forced herself into an unhealthy diet & exercise regime. Even then, Ella and her friends continued to bully her relentlessly.

It got so bad that OP's daughter was hospitalized at one point. It was the breaking point, and OP fought the school admins to get them to punish everyone responsible for her daughter's suffering.

Cut to a few years later — OP's daughter is a third-year college student, and Ella is apparently dating OP's son. Her daughter was extremely hurt by her older brother's actions.

She frequently cried herself to sleep, wondering why her brother would date anyone who bullied her so badly that she almost died. Ella and OP's son eventually got married.

OP's silent protest is to keep her distance from Ella, and she is sticking to this. She recently invited her daughter and her two other daughters-in-law to spend time together without Ella.

Ella found out when one of the DIL thanked OP for the opportunity to destress without her children

She planned another night out with the same women without letting Ella know but she still found out from OP's eldest son

Ella got hurt when she found out and asked OP what did she do to deserve this kind of treatment

OP didn't hold back and told Ella exactly why she's treating her differently

OP told her that her behavior in high school towards her daughter meant she would never become a member of their family. Ella left with her husband, who relayed to OP that Ella had been crying herself to sleep since that confrontation.

The biggest tell, at least from OP's perspective, is that Ella hasn't even apologized to OP's daughter for what she did. She even jokes about it and says it was just her "dark humor."

OP knows the risk of her son cutting contact with them, but she isn't as bothered by it given her son's choice of spouse. Although Ella has stopped bullying OP's daughter, she made no move to apologize for her past actions.

It's one think not to acknowledge the pain you've caused but to joke about it and brush it off to dark humor... it's sick

Maybe she's just that delusional or evil

OP's son is just as bad for marrying his own sister's bully or it could be that he's a bully too

We are sad to report that siblings associating with their own sibling's bully is not an isolated incident

Ella is retraumatizing OP's daughter and she knows exactly what she's doing

She didn't apologize at all and waited for OP to bring it up before acting like she was the victim

At this point, the brother cutting contact will count as a blessing

She did not display any growth or maturity whatsoever despite the many years since the bullying happened

We will never know the answer because OP's account has been suspended and she didn't answer any questions prior to it

Compared to what she subjected OP's daughter to, Ella got off easy when she didn't get invited to one girl's night

Siblings like OP's son are no better than the bullies and should really rethink what happened to their principles

Ella cried like a victim after not being invited to girl's night as an adult. OP's daughter was young and impressionable when they bullied her.

It probably took all of her willpower to push past her pain and eventually thrive. OP and their family have no obligation to accept Ella's apology should she ever make a half-assed one in the future.

Chelsi